Our Men's Discipleship group at church is studying this book. I've read the whole book and highly recommend it. It's life-changing because the focus is not on the problem but on the reason why we have the problem. Even if you are not struggling in this area it is a good read because it teaches you how to practically come to true repentance, have true Godly sorrow vs. worldly sorrow, how to use the power of God's Grace to overcome, and how to grow in your walk with the Lord which leads to a love for God. When you come to love God more than your sin, you are finally free
Enslavement to pornography is perhaps the least enjoyable topic for Christians to bring up, let alone discuss. This means ironically that it's extremely important to bring up and discuss. And we should be thankful for books which do just that, like Heath Lambert's Finally Free. If you're perhaps thinking instead, "Another book about porn and Christians?! This is ridiculous!", the blunt truth is that since immorality is such an epidemic in the church and the lives of the Christians in them, it requires constant attention. It's perfectly appropriate for believers around the world to address the porn problem, both from the pulpit and in print. And I frankly wish we would more often.
What I appreciate most about Finally Free is that Heath Lambert constantly speaks to the only answer to one's enslavement to sexual sin: the grace of Jesus Christ. Without it, a Christian will never escape porn's shackles. Heath doesn't stray from that fact for a moment. The beginning chapter presents an interesting diagram, where God's grace lies at the center [as the foundation to this answer], and eight specific concepts "point out" as weapons which the grace-enabled Christian can use to fight his/her unique battle. Those weapons are sorrow, accountability, a radical attitude, confession, one's spouse (or singleness), humility, gratitude, and one's relationship with Christ. This is the makeup of Finally Free. Each chapter brings a no-nonsense message about the [porn] problem, and sterling encouragements about the possible effects of the wise use of the highlighted weapon.
I couldn't have predicted, however, the extents that Lambert suggests in the chapter surrounding radical measures. I fully support the idea of someone doing whatever it takes to be severed from bondage to pornography, but would have never considered changing my job, or handing my car keys to someone. Yet given the chance to stew on this for a while, it makes sense. Whatever it takes means whatever it takes, even if it seems strange. The cost to follow Jesus should never matter to us. Lambert took his material straight out of Matthew 5/Mark 9, where Jesus explicitly commands a radical approach to mortifying sin. Such measures also aren't intended to be needed forever, of course.
Chapters 7 and 8 were the most thought-provoking to me. Chapter 7 (humility) challenged me about the notion that watching pornography, or fantasizing, is a manifestation of one's pride. Lambert proposes that men indulge in porn especially because they want to see women portrayed in ways that God has expressly forbidden. Instead we ought to regard such actors and actresses, or the objects of our fantasies, as people who need us to represent Christ to them, not take advantage of them. It should also be viewed as a selfish use of time, which could be used instead to serve others. There are many other details concerning using humility as weapon, but the idea in general spoke to me. And the same for gratitude (chapter 8), which isn't practiced when watching porn or thinking about it. In being thankful for what we do have, we enjoy an attitude of gladness that's able to dispel any desire to see sexual depravity. It's fascinating how Heath references Ephesians 5:3-4 (which I also do in another article: Not Even A "Hint"), emphasizing the three last words, but rather thanksgiving, to drive this home. His point is that the apostle Paul exhorts us to be thankful (grateful) to have victory over the sins mentioned in the prior verse (sexual immorality, impurity, greed, obscenity, foolish talk, and coarse joking). Makes sense to me!
The final chapter caught me a little bit by surprise. It's intimately connected to the introductory chapter, but I won't divulge how so. It helps you appreciate even more how Lambert handled the material between the two as far as all the pearls of wisdom Christians can benefit from as they fight daily for moral purity. It's also interesting that Joshua Harris, a well-respected author [on dating and sexuality], was responsible for the book's Foreword. Harris hints in a way that Finally Free blows his sex isn't the problem, lust is book out of the water, and that he would recommend Lambert's book to anyone struggling with porn addiction.
My critique of Finally Free is ultimately this; if your life is consumed by pornography and you want a book that will flood your mind with the truth of grace and also not mince words about what you're doing, absolutely pick up Finally Free. But others can certainly read it as well. If you're looking for extra encouragements in the rough and tumble of the daily battle, as I always do, read the book. If you want to help someone else addicted to immorality, Finally Free is a wonderful tool! And thank you brother Lambert, for keeping this deadly issue fresh in our minds.
"Finally Free - fighting for purity with the power of grace" by Heath Lambert challenges the reader to grow in sexual purity. He especially writes for everyone struggling with pornography in his or her lives. At the same time, most of his strategies can be transferred to confront many other sins in our lives.
The foundation for his approach to live a life of purity is based on the saving grace of God. After introducing his starting point, he explores eight main strategies to grow in purity: sorrow, accountability, radical measures, confession, your spouse (or your singleness), humility, gratitude, and a dynamic relationship with Jesus. Lambert fills his chapters with stories of people he has met that have dealt with the challenge of purity in their lives and illustrates his points with real life examples. Each chapter is followed by a few practical points to challenge the reader to put the strategy discussed into practice and to think some more about the points presented.
The book is easy to follow and engaging. The stories make it easy to see how the different strategies work in real life and they help the reader to put them into practice. The author writes in a clear manner and it is easy to understand his points. I really appreciate the positive attitude of the author who is trying to encourage and support his struggling readers. He challenges the reader in an uplifting way to face the obstacles in his or her own life. I would definately reccommend this book.
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Recently i returned to reading, and to a wonderful resource known as Booksneeze.com, which offers the opportunity to read and review books that have been recently published. I was reading the titles, and so many jumped at me as something i should be taking the time to enjoy. But every now and then a book comes along that seems like it would help to expand both my husband and my understanding of issue, and struggles common to us. While neither of us have struggled with the deep addiction of pornography, we have each witnessed good people fall into this trap, and become entangled. We offer to pray, but there seemed to be more that can be done. We selected Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of God by Heath Lambert as one such text to help expand our ability to minister to others.
Heath compiled a nicely organized book on how to work through breaking the shackles of the addiction to pornography by hitting the root cause. Like a carpenter or craftsman, Heath begins to add tools that will help, will make a difference. Some of what he wrote was not startling, yet it was good reminder that we are each our brother's keeper, and we should spend effort building into each other, looking out for each other and helping others through times of struggle and temptation by offering substitutions.
The book starts out slow, and i found myself frustrated with the constant repetition of statements, much like the annoying person that keeps asking "did you get that?" after every sentance. But pushing through those first chapters it was well worth the read. I would recommend this primarily for men, however the information is universal, and could easily be applied to other issues we battle in this christian life.
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Finally Free is a book on dealing with the sin of pornography. It is written specifically to men who are struggling with an addiction to pornography or to people trying to help men who are. But this book is different from other books that I have read on the topic of pornography. Most books spend a good deal of time describing pornography and how big a problem it is in our culture. However, if you are already struggling with this issue, you don't need a history or civics lecture, you need Jesus to help you conquer your sin. And that is where this book begins and ends - with Jesus.
Also, the best part about this book is that it doesn't just apply to pornography. It applies to any sin in your life that you are continually struggling with. Perhaps it is gambling or drinking or even something less obvious, like joining in with inappropriate conversations at work. Whatever it is, this book teaches how to deal with any sin issue that you are struggling with by relying on Christ and His saving grace.
Heath Lambert gives clear evidence of Jesus' love for us and clear scripture backing it up. He shows how God wants us to behave and how we can accomplish it. He also gives very clear practical advice on how to deal with the sin of pornography and gives examples to show how it looks in reality. At the end of each chapter are a list of questions and tasks to help you apply what you learned in that chapter. They are very real and practical questions that make you deal honestly with your sin and level with God on dealing with it.
This book is a terrific resource for someone stuck in the mire of pornography. However, it is also a great book for anyone dealing with a specific sin that is a source of great struggle in his/her life.
Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Zondervan Publishers through Cross Focused Reviews. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this is accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255: "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."