All I can say about this book is WOW! I love the way that Shannon tells it like it is. I was hooked by the second page and just could not put the book down.
Ever since I met Shannnon at a Women's Retreat at my home church, I have been in love with her "no-holds barred" style of writing. There is definitely no sugar-coating in this book.
In most churches, it is taboo to even mention the word "sex" in a sermon and yet it is a topic that desperately needs to be discussed within the church. Children are becoming sexually active at an earlier age, spouses are stepping outside their marriages to create a little spark and yet the church continues to remain silent on the issue.
I thank God so much for Shannon Ethridge. So many people go through life feeling guilty about their dreams and fantasies, never knowing how to deal with them.
After reading this book I am even more inspired to try and live a pure life. This book is written primarily with the Christian Wife in mind, but there are lots of ``golden nuggets`` that would be helpful for men as well.
When I first heard that this book had been released, I prepared myself that all I would be reading is ``sex is bad`` and that fantasies will always steer me in the wrong direction.
``Fantasies have deep psychological roots, and if acted on many of them can do psychological damage. Rather than let fantasies rule us, let`s take out the sting and bring them under God`s rule, allowing the Lord to heal us from the brokenness and insecurities that cause inappropriate fantasies to haunt us.``
The best-selling author of the Every Woman's Battle Series returns with her latest book, The Fantasy Fallacy. Within the pages of the book, Shannon Ethridge explores the deep psychological roots behind our fantasies, noting that they are the brain's way of trying to heal from unresolved tragedies and traumas. She candidly takes a look at some difficult topics, including gay and lesbian desires, desires for threesomes, or fascinations with pornography, bondage or sadomasochism. Shannon teaches the reader how to take each fantasy captive to Christ and allowing Jesus to heal us from our brokenness that leads to inappropriate fantasies.
Shannon Ethridge is a fantastic author whose book is extremely timely for a generation who has become addicted to pornography and enamored with books like "Fifty Shades of Grey". I greatly appreciate how she tackles each subject in a straight-forward manner, not shying away from disturbing topics, but instead addressing them in a non-judgmental manner. I found the book to be a breath of fresh air, a book that will absolutely lead readers to a place of freedom. I appreciated the practical nature of the book, that she includes ideas to control unwanted fantasies. She provides a wonderfully balanced look at the topic of sexuality, recognizing that sex is an absolute gift from God and is meant to be something good, and shows us how we can keep the perverse from twisting this wonderful gift. The book simply breathes with scripture, and as such you can read this book knowing it is based on truth.
I strongly recommend this book, and award it a rating of 4 out of 5 stars. If you or someone you know is struggling in the area of purity, then this book may just have the guidance you are looking for!
Book has been provided courtesy of the publisher, Thomas Nelson, and the Booksneeze program, for the purposes of this unbiased review.
the Fifty Shades of Grey books have taken on a life of their own. there's even imitation books and feature films may be in the works. the book inspired a skit on SNL, it's been talked about, trashed or endorsed, on TV, the radio, and the internet, and even some European hotels have replaced the Gideon Bibles in their rooms with copies of Fifty Shades of Grey.
Shannon Ethridge is an author, speaker, lay counselor, and her latest book is The Fantasy Fallacy: Exposing The Deeper Meaning Behind Sexual Thoughts. it is, as the top of the book cover states, "A Response To The 50 Shades Of Grey Phenomenon."
it's a great read from an intelligent author. Ethridge is thoughtful, caring, and wants people to live healthy lives.
she explores sexual thoughts over nine wonderful chapters.
1. Why Discuss Sexual Fantasies?
2. The Benefits of Boundaries.
3. The Faces Behind Sexual Fantasies.
4. Pornography: The Fantasy Factor.
5. Bartering With Our Bodies.
6. When "One Flesh" Isn't Enough Flesh.
7. Grappling With Gay And Lesbian Fantasies.
8. Our Fascination With Pleasure, Pain, And Power.
9. Putting Fantasy In It's Place.
the appendicies are excellent as well.
Ethridge's vision for the book is stated early, in a short section entitled "Note to the Reader: Fifty Shades Of Reality." she writes: "...I'm praying the same prayer over you [readers] that I've prayer over myself - that God would give you eyes to view all things sexual through His lens, and no one else's."
I had the privilege of hearing Shannon Ethridge speak at Biola University before I graduated. The humble and loving woman poured out her heart to us college students, revealing much of her darkest moments and God's grace in pulling her out of a life stuck in the gutter. While Shannon's new book, "The Fantasy Fallacy," does not go into the same details (which I'm told are in her other books), it deals with the taboo topic of sex and fantasy - and, as a response the "50 Shades of Grey" phenomenon, it works very well.
But don't expect a rant against the immoral plot elements of the popular novel series. "Grey" only gets two or three mentions in "Fantasy Fallacy." Instead, Shannon explores the reasons why we as humans seem to enjoy reading books like these and why we indulge in our fantasies. Anyone who has read, is considering reading, or has friends who have read the "50 Shades" series will be able to have ideas for discussion after reading "Fantasy Fallacy." You don't have to have sexual struggles to get something out of the book. With plenty of examples and just enough Scripture in hand, Shannon pull the reader in and challenges you to look at why you are the way you are. Sure, there's plenty to explore here about society's reasons for sex and fantasy, but Shannon's talent is in giving us plenty to think about and giving us free space to discuss and learn about the taboo topics hardly ever discussed at church.
I highly recommend this book to anyone and everyone.
*Disclaimer: I was given this book in exchange for my honest review of it.
The Fantasy Fallacy - A GPS to Healing and Freedom
October 23, 2012
Saint John, New Brunswick, Canada
In the mist of the Fifty Shades of Grey craze comes Shannon Ethridge's The Fantasy Fallacy and I can say with certainty that it's right on time. The courage to stand up and speak out on a subject swept under the carpet by the church and society is commendable and gutsy. After reading The Fantasy Fallacy I'm more convinced than ever that we need to open up more about "what's going on between our ears." The Fantasy Fallacy pulls back the curtains and sheds much needed light on a once dark and lonely place in the minds of most human beings . . . the world of sexual fantasy. This book serves as an ice-breaker to give courage to those who feel trapped and controlled by their fantasies to discover the roots and break free from the bondage they create. The Fantasy Fallacy exchanges the label of "FREAK" for "HUMAN" and in doing so gives voice and power back to those desperately trying to find their way out of the tangled web of the fantasy world. For some it will serve as a GPS to freedom, for others it will serve as a loudspeaker to confirm what they already know and wake them up to the solutions they have been ignoring.
Whether you are Christian struggling with guilt and condemnation from yourself or the church, or whether you are just the average person with no spiritual or religious affiliation; The Fantasy Fallacy is a MUST READ. Anyone who is a human being can and will benefit from reading this book. Whether you discover new principles for overcoming unhealthy fantasy or whether you are just building on a previously laid foundation, I can assure you this book is worth the read. The Fantasy Fallacy gives everyone the permission to be human, the courage to be honest, and the things we need to navigate our way from bondage to freedom.
One cannot thank Shannon enough for answering the call of God and writing this book. The world has needed her bravery, her honesty, and her obedience. Thank you for daring to venture into taboo territory and by doing so freeing many captives.