Devotion by Marianne Evans is a book that offers second chances. Marianne takes you on a journey through a wonderful couple's life. After nine years of marriage Juliet and Kellen seem to be growing apart. Will their commitment so many years ago bring them back together?
This was a hard book to read because of its content. Marianne did a great job in showing the characters true feelings. It take three to make a marriage-God, you and your spouse. But above all you must be committed.
The review for Devotion is going to be a little different from most of my reviews in that I am interjecting more personal observations than I normally do.
In my mind, infidelity has always equaled adultery, therefore when I read the blurb above the title:
A SINGLE ACT OF INFIDELITY
A LIFETIME OF FORGIVENESS
I thought the book would focus on the effects of adultery. For that reason, I was surprised to find out it was about a married man kissing someone other than his wife.
OK, so I looked up infidelity and most of the dictionary definitions agreed with me. However, I found the best description, I felt, based on the logic of Devotion, on Wikipedia. Their definition was:
INFIDELITY (also referred to as cheating, adultery, or having an affair) is the subjective feeling that one's partner has violated a set of rules or relationship norms and this violation results in feelings of sexual jealousy and rivalry (Leeker & Carlozzi, 2012).
The violation can be sexual in nature, for example, involving kissing, sexual fondling, or sex with another individual outside of the relationship.
What constitutes an act of infidelity is dependent upon the exclusivity expectations within the relationship (Barta & Kiene, 2005). In marital relationships, exclusivity expectations are commonly assumed although they are not always met. When they are not met, research has found that particular psychological damage including feelings of rage and betrayal, lowering of sexual and personal confidence, and damage to self-image can occur (Leeker et al., 2012).
So, for the most part, Wikipedia agrees with me, but does go on to say it could just be a kiss.
With that caveat in mind, I continued reading. But, please somebody-GIVE ME A BREAK! All the angst anger and outrage over a kiss in a public place, that albeit was interrupted, but was never followed through on nor did the husband WANT to follow through. In a moment of weakness and curiosity, he kissed her-GET OVER IT.
I feel the book is a real slap in the face to women who have been victims of adultery and not just a betrayal as this book portrays.
I felt like the wife, Julie, was a spoiled, whiny brat that made sure her husband, Kellen, knew what a cad he was and was not ever going to let him forget.
She moves out of their house and in with her sister, then changes her mind and moves back home but will not be around her husband adjusting her schedule to be away when he is home and home when he is away!
She is petty, waspish and cruel while he is constantly asking for forgiveness and trying to atone for what he has done. She even, before and after The Kiss, accepted and returned affection from a single friend at her church.
I decided to pretend it was not just a kiss and the book flowed much better for me.
I could see how the wife felt and why she was acting as the severely injured party. I could see why the husband felt so apologetic and contrite. Moreover, that little tweak in my mind made for a much, much improved feel to the story.
Devotion is very well written and thought out book. If the book were truly about adultery, you would be able to feel the anger, betrayal and sadness as befitting the crime. You would also rejoice in the forgiveness and love after a reconciliation.
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Kellen married the woman of his dreams. Juliet was a beautiful
woman and also beautiful on the inside. This marriage was solid and built on Christian values. Kellen said he did not need anyone but his wife, so how did things change?
Kellen was a Christian music agent. He dealt with both male and female singers. He was always on the lookout for new talent. When approached to hear a certain female, he went. He had worked with dozens of beautiful women in the music field. When he signed them on as agents he propelled them toward a professional and monetary success.
Juliet was busy serving and helping the underprivileged. She loved Kellen with all her heart. She knew that Kellen worked with beautiful female singers all the time. This had never been a concern for her. Why did this one seem to occupy more of his time? What is happening with this Chloe?
They were a childless couple although they wanted children. Trying to have a child had not been successful.
Will they finally have a child?
What happens when this wonderful couple suddenly encounters a threat to their marriage?
Devotion is a story of this marriage that will either crash and survive. What happens and the solution, if any, is what the book is about.
I thought the book was excellent and thoroughly enjoyed it.
I received this book free from bookfun.org in exchange for my review, and was pleasantly surprised. The book's title and photo gave no clue as to its contents, so it did not entice me. This book went to the "raw" part of your feelings. Without revealing the story, I can say that it gave such detail as to both the husband and wife's feelings throughout the angst that they battled, prior to the "act of betrayal", during the commitment of the act, and afterward. I was able to feel the exact feelings (in my head) and understand what they both were experiencing. It surprised me to see an author's detailed portrayal of going to "places" within oneself where nobody wants to go, and how a person is able to "heal", only possible through an abiding faith. I gave this book 4 stars due to the distraction I experienced by faulty grammar, which sometimes took me "off course", mentally. I recommend this book to every married couple, or previously married couple, as it is so "relatable".
Devotion by Marianne Evans is a hard book for those who are struggling through a rough season in their marriage. Forgiveness is not as easy as we want it to be and one wrong action can make forgiveness so much harder to surrender too. This Book not only gives tools to really look into the situation and season that your marriage is in. It also give you the tools and hope to fins a place of Devotion to yourself , your spouse and above all your God. This book is worth the additional time and effort needed to read with or at the same time as your spouse. Take the leap, bo not let evil and temptation take away for the Love that God wants for you in your marriage. Make a choice of a lifetime of Devotion to each other through your heavenly Father. I was told once what doesn't bend breaks - Marianne Evans shows us how God made us stronger than we image, that we can bend more that we ever thought without breaking, for Sin will not be victorious over Love.
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