I have long been a fan of Sally's books for mothers. She writes with compassion and understanding, providing encouragement as well as a vision to strive for. This book is no different. I have never struggled as deeply with depression as Sarah Mae has, but I often find myself feeling overwhelmed, discouraged, and as if I am failing in my role as a wife, mother, homemaker, and homeschool mom.
Each chapter of Desperate spoke to me in some way, but the second section of the book (Getting Real About Mama-Hood) spoke to me most. The chapters on overcoming selfishness in ourselves, the desire to escape, and housework struggles hit really close to home. I have to admit that I was so encouraged to read that Sally had some of the same struggles as me in her motherhood. I had an image of her as a perfect mother, with a beautifully kept home, and I needed to have that false image destroyed. I needed to know she was more like me than I had previously thought. It gave me hope and renewed my vision for my role as a mother and homemaker.
I absolutely recommend Desperate to every mom who has found motherhood to be harder than she expected. If you look at yourself each day and only see failures, weaknesses, and disappointment ... then you need to read this book. If your vision for motherhood doesn't line up with the reality of your everyday life, and you feel like life has become drudgery instead of joy, then you need to read Desperate. Sarah Mae and Sally's gentle encouragement is life-giving.
This book was provided to me in e-book format for review purposes. I received no other compensation for this review, and these are my honest opinions.
Have you ever really, Really, REALLY liked a book that you thought "I might as well highlight the whole book!"? Well, that is me with Desperate! After just seeing the title, I knew I would read this book and am so glad I did. (I was even extra blessed to get to review it!) I've needed a book like this for several years and would highly recommend it to all moms!! We moms may be exhausted and desperate...."But you have a faithful God who loves you and whom I believe will bring you what you need to get through. There is no one answer for everyone, because the Lord works differently in each of our lives, but you need to know that He hasn't forgotten you. He doesn't forget His children, big or little." (from Sarah)
Sally Clarkson, an older mom, became a mentor for Sarah Mae, a younger mom, and now they are joining forces to minister to other moms. At the beginning of each chapter they share a letter from Sarah and then Sally's response to it. Next they each share very honestly and beautifully from their heart. And don't worry; We are not given a new to-do-list, but instead understanding and encouragement...
"I came to realize over the years that the forming of their souls was a hard, long-distance race. In retrospect I can now see how it has become an essential part of my spiritual service of worship to God. He entrusted these precious souls into my hands. The work of motherhood was the way He wanted me to serve and love Him...In order to stay the course, we mothers must see the nurturing of our children as a spiritual call in order to have integrity in our own Christian lives." (from Sally)
The book is divided into three sections -- 1: The Dream Life...Altered, 2: Getting Real About Mama-hood, and 3: The Redeeming -- with chapters breaking topics down. At the end of each chapter is "Your Turn" with verses, questions, suggested activity and even a video. Then at the end of the book is a question and answer with Sally Clarkson.
Now, go get a copy for you and a few more to share with your mommy friends!! :)
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This is one of the best mothering books I've ever read. It is the ideal book for new mothers and seasoned mothers alike. Each chapter begins with a letter from Sarah to Sally followed by Sally's reply. Then the authors take turns writing about each topic from their different perspectives. Sarah is a mom with young children while Sally's children are already grown.
At the end of each chapter, Bible study and journaling questions help you to evaluate yourself. Every chapter also has a QR code and website address to a short video with the authors that correspond to each lesson. The book ends with a wonderful Q & A by Sally.
The book has 14 chapters and 221 pages (print version). The chapters are divided into three sections: 1) The Dream Life...Altered 2) Getting Real About Mama-Hood and 3)The Redeeming. It's just the right length for busy moms. Chapters are meaty, but short enough to read in one sitting.
A favorite quote of mine is from Sally Clarkson:
"I believe there is no 'one right way.' God calls each of us to seek Him, to look for His wisdom and to follow where He calls us by faith, and it will be a different story for each family, marriage, and individual mom or day."
We need to look to the Bible and to God for our direction and not to the many voices telling us what to do. I struggle with perfectionism so I really liked what Sally has to say about this as well,
"Living by performance always kills our souls because none of us are perfect mothers, and we will fail in some areas, so we need to live by God's approval and mercy to feel His grace."
One thing I really loved for more experienced moms was a call to help the younger moms as is Biblical. It is a reminder to younger moms to not forget what it was like to be a mom with young children and for those of us who are older to lend a hand to them.
I found this book to be encouraging and uplifting, yet challenging at the same time. Many parenting books leave you feeling guilty and overwhelmed. Desperate does the opposite. Both authors are transparent and offer hope and encouragement. This is a must read for all Christian homeschooling moms. Don't miss it. (I've already started re-reading it.)
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I like this book, because it is written for me as a homeschooling stay at home mom. I was afraid that it would advise me to ask for help outside my home and to let my children go to many places to be myself, but it didn't. The writers do advise to find friends and rest sometimes, but the main idea is, that mothers are the only ones who have to take care of their children, and children need heir mothers.
I love that this book, Desperate, is an exchange between two mothers - one mother that is in the midst of it all and one mother that is able to reflect, remember, and mentor. Personally, I feel in the middle of these two women since my children range in age from 2- 18 years old. I have some reflection and perspective but am overwhelmed some days with the challenges of the different personalities and trying to homeschool them all.
This book expresses the honest feelings and situations that mothers face. Each chapter begins with a letter from Sarah Mae to Sally and Sally's letter back. This is followed by Sarah sharing her challenges of mothering, her response, and how God is growing her in her struggles. Sally also reflects on her years in the similar circumstances. The chapters end with scripture and thought/discussion questions and "something to do." There is also a QR code to scan for a video clip.
This book is an encouragement. It also speaks to the need for Godly mentors and encouragers in our lives. I know that as I have been reading this book and mothering my littlest, who still hasn't slept through the night, I appreciate both perspectives. I hope to be able to mentor moms as I am able. I am thankful for the challenges recently so that I may be able to better be in touch and support new moms who may be feeling desperate.