Wow! What a beautiful, compassionate, wonderful resource for women who are struggling with infertility and secondary infertility. Janet's godly wisdom and compassionate advice shine through the pages. I poured over it (having struggled with secondary infertility, myself) and have recommended it to many women I know who are struggling with these issues. This is a book you'll want to stock up on and give to friends and women you minister to, as well.
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May 28, 2011
If you have ever whispered in prayer, "Dear God, why can't I have a baby?" you have found a friend for this emotional detour in Janet Thompson. Her book, aptly titled, "Dear God, Why Can't I Have a Baby?" is the book I wish I'd had in the 90s during my own struggles to become a mother. Somehow, Thompson covers it all in this book! The heartache and disappointment of course, but also the quiet talks we have with God and the prayers we send up through a shower of tears; the reactions to the advice from those around us, to finding joy despite our circumstances. Thompson even calls the forms and charts in the book's index "Sanity Tools."
Throughout the book she offers scriptures that comes to life; mentoring moments with wise yet sensitive advice; journal entries to remind the reader that she is not alone; God's love letter to the reader, and a place for the reader to write a note back to God. There is even a couple's prayer in each section, a much-needed yet rare resource. Far too many couples find themselves growing farther apart through infertility when they could be using the experience to become closer. "Daddy-in-waiting" reflections also provide validation of the mixed feelings men may carry silently.
There is not a book that can cure infertility, but this book can end the bitterness, frustrations, loss of joy, and even resentment. When we are suffering, loves ones are quick to say, "Be sure to grow closer to God during this time, not farther away," but when you are deep in the pit of grief, you need a helping hand to do this. Thompson's "Dear God, Why Can't I Have a Baby?" helps the spiritual and emotional struggle seem to be one that is able to be conquered.
This book is sure to become not only a tool to express one's emotions and find solace, but also one that the reader will find herself holding in the middle of the night grasping for an answer. I am honored to be able to share my story in this book, about how I became a mother through the gift of adoption. However God may determine one's path to parenthood, this book will someday become a keepsake for when one wishes to reflect on her thoughts and spiritual journey during that unexpected detour.
I love the way this book is written in 21 chapters that follow infertility as it actually happened to us and unfortunately, to many of our friends. From Chapter One where we decided "It's time to have a baby", through to Chapter Four - "Paralyzing Shock" of the diagnosis, to other roads of "Starting Treatments", "Making it Through the Bad Days" & "Grieving the Losses". You'll laugh, cry, and more importantly, know you are not alone on this amazingly difficult journey!