When I got this book, I was a bit skeptical, only because some of the other books I have read lately on the subject of Biblical womanhood have taken a decidedly, "I've got this all figured out and you don't" attitude.
I was pleasantly suprised to find that I really enjoyed reading this book. The overall tone was one of encouragement, not chastisement. I will not add a great amount of detail about the women in the book, because you can read about those in a couple of the other reviews. I just found it very refreshing to see some real-world examples of women who were trying to live out Biblical submission in their lives, and I also appreciated seeing that they were not claiming to be perfect, but not discouraged by that fact.
I will be re-reading this book--the second reading will be so that I can make discussion sheets and use this book as a tool for a women's study group.
This book really helped me to see God's plan for submission is not to be a doormat or to have no say. My relationship with my husband is improving as I apply God's word explained by Cindy in a way that I understand.
Oh how I wish I had read this book before I got married. Really, before I ever started dating. Cindy Easley tackles a "taboo" topic ... submission in marriage. I picked up this book with a little curiosity, a lot of hesitation, and a hope that I would learn something. I'm so glad I did!!!
In Dancing with the One You Love: Submission in the Real World, Cindy Easley explains the biblical mandate for submission in marriage and then gives lots of real-life testimonies to how this plays out practically. Each chapter features a different woman's story: a military wife with a husband who's gone most of the time, a Christian woman who's been married to a non-believer for 40+ years, a woman who makes more money than her husband, etc. Each of these women shares her own personal struggles with submitting to the leadership of her husband, talks about how/when she knew that submission was something she needed to do to be obedient to God, and explains how that looks in the day-to-day of her marriage.
I loved that the author didn't choose "perfect" women. Each wife had and still has struggles. They were open with their lives and I appreciated the realness of what they had to say. Also, while some chapters give an extreme example, the author also mentions how other women may fit into the same category. For example, every woman isn't married to a military husband who is gone for a year or more at a time. But many women have husbands who travel with their jobs. The same principles apply whether he travels for a year or for one night.
I'm not sure why submission has such a negative connotation for women. However, I loved that this book explains things in a positive light without minimizing the scriptural basis or demeaning women. A win for all, in my book. ;)
I would highly recommend this book for ALL women ... married, single, engaged, with daughters, with sons. There's a great little study guide in the back that would be ideal to go through with a daughter, a friend, a small group, etc.
I received a free copy of this book from Moody Publishers in exchange for my fair and honest review.
This past weekend I was struggling with some matters in my heart and then I picked this book up. I felt as if the author was writing my story in her preface. I had come to the same conclusions she had. In the first two chapter, she outlines the biblical support for what submission is and why it is hard. Then she shares the stories of several women over the course of the next 7 chapters. She tackles the issues of what submission looks like if... you are married to an unbeliever, your husband is an alcoholic, your husband is absent often (like in the military for deployments), you are a strong woman, your husband has a chronic and serious illness, you grew up in a matriarchal culture, or you are the primary wage earner. The stories of the women in her book were good examples to me and encouraging to me. I am encouraged to know that I am not alone in this journey.
Ms. Easley writes about submission as a matter of the heart. I have been reticent to recommend other popular books for women on this subject because the tone of the author's concerned me. I have no concerns like that in regard to this book. It is very easy to read and encouraging. If you have questions about submission or have felt convicted about it, I think this book really helps explain what submission means and what it looks like in a gracious and loving way. If you desire encouragement in your journey of marriage, I hope it will also encourage you--as it did me.
Please note that I received a complimentary copy of this book for review from Moody Publishing.