This book presents an extremely unbalanced view of the roles of husband and wife. It is a waste of time at best and dangerous at worst. Women were never meant to be doormats in the kingdom of heaven. This book tells women to not have good friends that are other women, and to avoid enjoying the friendship of their children because the husband is supposed to be the one and only relationship that we are supposed to have. If we are not careful we could end up avoiding a relationship with even God in following the ridiculous advice in this book. It puts women under a huge load of condemnation to be everything for their husbands. Only God can be everything for your husband, ladies. For a more balanced view on the subject, read Boundaries in Marriage.
I would first like to say that I always read reviews before I purchase a book. I was dumbfounded by the stark differences in the reviews of this book. The readers either absolutely hated it or completely loved it. Of course, that means I have to find out why.
My feeling after reading this book for the 3rd time in two months is that a woman must be sold out to Jesus Christ to benefit from this book's wisdom.
This book has convicted me, touched me, I have laughed, I have cried and was mad at myself. I think the most significant thing I have received from this book is a changed heart. I am working at God's pace now. I have purchased several copies and have given them to my friends. I plan on purchasing many more to give away. I am also working with our pastor's wife to start a woman's class to study this book.
God's word is glorified through this book. This book has opened my eyes to how very evil our world has become. Mrs. Pearl touches on so many subjects that hit home for me. All of the little things us girls do to destroy our marriages without even realizing it. The devil wants to keep us ignorant. If you purchase this book and study each chapter, your life and marriage will forever be changed with unspeakable blessings!
Awesome! If you have any doubts, purchase the book. I wish I could give it 10 Stars!
As a single woman, I was curious whether or not this book could help me. It could! Not only is it preparing me for a Godly marriage, but it also helped me immensely with my relationship with my father.
I found the vast differences in the reviews posted intriguing. Some made me strongly wonder if the reviewer had truly read the book, just skimmed it, or went off of another's interpretation of the book since I found a lot of false and misleading information. So, this is one book you may need to read for yourself before concluding what you think about it.
If you are a woman looking for someone else to blame or to do the work in your struggling relationship, then choose some other "feel good" material (there are some suggestions listed on negative reviewers' posts). However, if you are willing to return to the basics of the Bible and to be honest with yourself and God, then you have found the perfect aide to your journey to a God-blessed, Bible-based marriage.
Notice that the reviewers who followed the suggestions given by Debi Pearl are now calling their marriages "deliriously happy" and "blessed". There is a reason why.
My sister-in-law read the book, changed her marriage, added two more little ones to their home (love being an auntie), and recommended it to me. I've read it, altered my bad relationship habits, readjusted my worldly thinking, bought a copy from christianbook.com to be shipped to my Christian sister with an atheist husband (Lord willing he, too, will come to know the Lord through her testimony), and bought it for one of my former high school Sunday school gals who just got married this summer.
When I moved to a foreign third-world country and had very limited suitcase space, I made sure this book was packed along for the journey. Even now I can see it sitting on my bookshelf.
I really enjoyed reading this book. It's a little hard to get into at first but then it really picks up once you stick with it. I'd recommend this book to single people who are about to be married. I would strongly recommend this book to newly weds and those that have been married a long time. This book will improve any marriage. I gave away copies to friends and family for Mother's Day.
Warning 1: In chapter 7, the author does away with older women and our hopes for sanctification/improvement as wives. She shuts the door on us, killing off any hope for a better marriage, arguing we cannot be transformed because of older age. (How unbiblical is that?)
Warning 2: This book may mislead wives into replacing God with their husbands. I have seen former godly women become husband-idolaters, following the advice in this book almost sectarianly.