Many of think we don't have time for real relationships. Tracey teaches us that it is just the opposite--it is actually these kind of relationships that refuel, encourage, and uplift us. Tracey talks about finding our "rhythm" as a mom. She says "If we find the right balance and cadence, which is so very doable for us moms, we just may thrive during motherhood." She addresses topics such as asking for help, discovering our passion (everyone has "one big thing" as she puts it), making time for hobbies, balancing extended family, making our marriage a priority, volunteering, and living out our relationship with Christ in a way that makes a difference in our world. She shares from her heart without dishing up any guilt.
The part of this book I was especially excited to read was about connecting with others. She includes connecting with our husbands in this. But, I was really interested to hear what she had to say about connecting with other women. Sometimes it feels like some friendships are in limbo during motherhood. There just isn't the time to invest in my friendships that I once did. And, making new friends seems almost completely overwhelming to me.
One of my favorite things that Tracey said on this topic of developing friendships was this...."We needed time to build history together.", she says of a group of women she felt connections to but was still getting to know. "So, take the risk to connect and then sit back and give that friendship the space and time it takes to grow."
I loved that! I sometimes felt guilty or bad that, while I've met many women since becoming a mom, it's been hard for me to develop that closeness that I crave in these new friendships. Part of it, I know, is me needing to reach out more & make time to spend with them. But, part of it, too, is just that - the need for time. Close friendships form over time.
Its like a great Bible lesson. It doesn't matter how many times you read it, it always speaks to you again and again, at different times, in different seasons of life, and always at the right time, when you need it most!
I love the book - Bianchi's clear and practical advice to moms (especially to those who under the influence of "parenting fog" in their kids' early years) is life-giving and will help readers remember who they are as women. I love her advice about saying "no" (could have used that a decade ago!) as well as ideas for creating grace-filled friendships (ditto). This book is a lifeline for moms.
Written in an easy-to-read, conversational style, this book offers "Mom Tested Tips" at the end of each chapter, as well as questions to reflect upon and a list of additional resources. These helpful tools are an added bonus, allowing the reader to do something with what they've read.
One of my favorite quotes from this book was,"Chaos will not disappear at this life stage, but we can change how we face it." What a great reminder that even though there will always be a cloud of crazy that hangs out in my house, I'm ultimately responsible for how I choose to live my life. I can become a hermit, refusing to invite anyone over because my house is not clean enough, or I can slide the laundry off the couch and reach out to those around me.