Sexy Christians: The Purpose, Power, and Passion of Biblical Intimacy
Very interesting book. I actually learned a few things about sexuality.
November 22, 2013
As a single woman I feel I need to add my comments here. I purchased this book thinking that it would be good information to store somewhere in the back of my mind until such a time as I was married. This book for me has been incredible. I think that it offers a very "real" perspective on expectations when you are married. Not only sexual ones but just the reality of living, breathing and basically co-existing with another real person. I realize that there are areas in my life that I need to work on now with God before I ever have to face them with another person. As I was telling my friend about how this book was helping me be more prepared in so many ways for a future marriage, she told me that in our society today people spend more time preparing for a job interview than they do for marriage. That is just crazy. There is a part in this book where Pastor Ted says that it is important to know what you need to know before you fall in love because once the hormones kick in reasoning goes out the window and is replaced by emotional reaction. And maybe I can't list the page number or the section where I read that, but what is important to me is that my head and my heart remember it. While some people think that this book is too much about Ted and Diane, I want to say that that is what is making it so special for me. I can read a text book all day long and not retain half of what I need to, but give me a book that uses real life people and examples and Godly ones at that and it is much easier for me to retain. Examples like theirs don't only give you a blueprint but they give you the tools to apply what you are learning. I'm not saying that what I am reading doesn't sound really hard but it gives me more of the tools that I need when choosing who I want to spend the rest of my life with. Though this book is not promoted or even suggested for singles, I recommend it to everyone of them. Why not do everything we can to be prepared. Thank you Ted and Diane.
June 1, 2010
"Sexy Christians" is an evangelical travesty. In a day when the evangelical church needs to return to Biblical foundations, "Sexy Christians" seems to be another evangelical "wanna-be" fad. It panders to the world, promotes worldly attitudes, unbiblical self-focus, sensuality, and seems to undermine the authority of the Bible with shallow exegesis and heavy reliance on psychology and neuroscience.The myriad problems with this book begin with the title. The Bible does not call Christians to be "sexy," it calls them to be holy. Holiness is indispensable (Heb. 12:14).One troubling example: The Roberts find support for oral sex in passages in the Song of Songs (p. 132-133, 251). The Roberts seem to be practicing eisegesis -- forcing one's interpretation and meaning onto a Bible text -- rather than exegesis, drawing out the proper meaning from the text.Another: Using Ruth 3:1-3, Roberts suggests that Naomi is urging Ruth to sex herself up to attract Boaz (p. 36-38). In so doing, Roberts is misinterpreting this sublime Bible passage and reinforcing the worlds destructive messages to women. Another: On page 147 Roberts says, "By the way, Shulamith is every husbands dream bride because she communicates so frankly and erotically." Christian men will find their "dream bride" in a godly woman whose "imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit... is precious in the sight of God," (2 Pe 3:4) not one who "communicates... frankly and erotically."It is also astonishing that in a book on Christian sexuality, the word "modesty" does not appear in 258 pages. Also, nowhere does it seem to affirm that faithful, monogamous marriage is God's non-negotiable standard regardless of whether the sex is "great" or not.May sincere believers, pastors, and teachers not be misled into the self-focused, psychologized, sensualized caricature of Biblical Christianity that Sexy Christians presents.
May 5, 2010