When Bad Christians Happen to Good People: Where We Have Failed Each Other and How to Reverse the Damage  -     By: Dave Burchett
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Sometimes, the people who hurt us the most are those with whom we share faith in Christ. If you've been hurt by the church, the pain and resentment you feel are real. In When Bad Christians Happen to Good People, Dave Burchett speaks from his own experience to give insights into why these abuses happen and how to prevent them. Working toward a solution will benefit you at the same time it helps others. Whether you've been a bad Christian in the past, or have been hurt by one, there is a better way to live.

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Format: Paperback
Number of Pages: 256
Vendor: WaterBrook Press
Publication Date: 2011
Dimensions: 8.00 X 5.19 (inches)
ISBN: 0307729923
ISBN-13: 9780307729927
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"Dave allowed God to navigate him through the pain of religious moralism to arrive at insightful, compelling, and gracious wisdom. He remains a sincere lover of God’s church and people as he directs weary pilgrims to safer lodging."
—John Lynch, coauthor of TrueFaced and Bo’s Café
 
Have you been betrayed by a Christian friend?
Are you disillusioned with the church?

 
If you have been hurt by Christians, you know all about anger and resentment. But what about a workable solution? How can the words and actions of "bad Christians" be addressed so the mistakes are not repeated? 
 
When Bad Christians Happen to Good People offers a workable response and, ultimately, a new way of living. In this revised and updated edition, you will find healing for hurts infl icted by others. At the same time, you will discover ways to help Christians and church leaders recognize the damage that is done by unexamined assumptions, words, and actions.
 
After dealing with his own hurt, Dave Burchett now shows believers how to:
■ Live as Jesus followers, not rule enforcers
■ Stop using religious performance as the standard for accepting others
■ Let go of moralism, legalism, and an allegiance to trying harder
■ Discover God’s grace as a daily reality, not just a word to use in evangelism
 
Working toward a solution will benefi t your own life at the same time it helps
others. Whether you have been a bad Christian in the past, or have been hurt by one,
there is a better way to live.

Discussion Guide Included for Individual and Small-Group Use

Author Bio

Dave Burchett started his career as a disc jockey in Ohio, and later moved into sports broadcasting. An Emmy Award-winning television sports director, he has directed events ranging from baseball Hall of Famer Nolan Ryan’s sixth no-hit game to the Summer Olympics. The author of Bring ’Em Back Alive and a blogger on Crosswalk.com and theFish.com, Burchett writes honestly and authentically out of his personal experience. He and his wife, Joni, live in Texas and have three adult sons and a daughter in heaven. 
 

Editorial Reviews

Praise for When Bad Christians Happen to Good People

"In When Bad Christians Happen to Good People, Dave indeed succeeds in making Christians think carefully and in getting us out of our comfort bunkers. I know that Bob would be chuckling with me at Dave’s sense of humor as he addresses very tough issues. I recommend it heartily to all who are serious in their commitment to be Jesus to our world."
—Marty Briner, widow of Bob Briner, who authored Roaring Lambs and Final Roar

"Even though I’m not a betting man, I’ll bet you’ve never read a book like this one. Here is a no-holds-barred look at what’s right, what’s wrong, and what’s really weird about the Christian movement in America. At the end of the day, Dave Burchett has a heart for the church, for the gospel, and for people who don’t know the Lord. Christians could make a powerful difference in our world. But we ourselves must change. This book points us in the right direction."
—Dr. Ray Pritchard, author, conference speaker, and senior pastor of Calvary Memorial Church in Oak Park, Illinois

"This book is excellent. Dave Burchett sends a wake-up call to all believers that our behavior and our attitudes can have a profound effect on how the Message is received. National research shows that there is a great disparity between how the world views Christians and how it views the person of Jesus Christ. When Bad Christians Happen to Good People challenges people of faith to live a life that shows the world love, hope, and encouragement."
—John Frost, noted strategic broadcast consultant 

"Dave allowed God to navigate him through the pain of religious moralism to arrive at insightful, compelling, and gracious wisdom. He remains a sincere lover of God’s church and people as he directs weary pilgrims to safer lodging. His self-effacing humor allows us to examine our religious culture without having to defend it."
—John Lynch, coauthor of TrueFaced and Bo’s Café

"After reading this book, I was motivated to take a personal inventory of my daily walk with Jesus. As I read page after page, I jotted down nuggets of wisdom, words of encouragement, and new ways to strengthen my relationship with Jesus, with other Christians, and with those who are not believers."
—Clint Hurdle, manager of the Pittsburgh Pirates

"Dave Burchett strikes out sometimes but happily hits home runs like Sammy Sosa. His comments about the sinner-sensitive church and CSL (Christian as a Second Language), his WJSHTOT question (Would Jesus Spend His Time on This?), and his "Don’t Know Much About Theology" song are all terrific."
—Marvin Olasky, editor of World and senior fellow of the Acton Institute

"When I need someone to convince me that there is still hope in spite of the bad Christianity I see all around me, I talk to Dave Burchett. He makes me laugh, makes me cry, and makes me think. And in the end, he helps me fall back in love with the bride of Christ. In the pages of When Bad Christians Happen to Good People, you can join in that conversation."
—Ed Underwood, author of When God Breaks Your Heart and Reborn to Be Wild

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  1. danielcooley
    Rio Rancho, NM
    Age: 45-54
    Gender: male
    4 Stars Out Of 5
    Best Book Title EVER - the book’s pretty good too.
    March 22, 2013
    danielcooley
    Rio Rancho, NM
    Age: 45-54
    Gender: male
    Quality: 4
    Value: 5
    Meets Expectations: 5
    When Bad Christians Happen To Good People, written by Dave Burchett.

    The Good:

    The title of course is excellent. Dave does a good job writing in a conversational style with great humor. I highly recommend this book! However, if you are on the sensitive, legalistic end of Christianity you may not enjoy the humor as much as the rest of us.

    The Bad:

    When I was reading it, my complaint was that there just wasn't much meat in the book. Yes, Christians are hypocrites in transition (my words not his) and we have hurt each other. So what now? Anyhow by the end Dave addressed that question in the last third of the book. What surprised me was how many pages I'd dog-eared to come back to later. Evidently I got more from it then I realized while reading it!

    The Ugly:

    It brought back memories of church wars. Some of us have a bit of PTSD. Worst yet, it brought back memories of when I've been the bad Christian. Conviction is necessary - but ugly.

    I'll be recommending this book. It drops a star only because the inside wasn't quite as good as the title. That's impossible I realize, but hey, it's my review. So there.

    Waterbrook Multnomah Publishers sent this book to me free for an unbiased review. That's what I've tried to give. As a Christian who is sometimes bad, I might could be bribed, but not for ten bucks.
  2. Dr JSK
    Age: 45-54
    Gender: male
    5 Stars Out Of 5
    December 4, 2012
    Dr JSK
    Age: 45-54
    Gender: male
    Quality: 5
    Value: 5
    Meets Expectations: 5
    When Bad Christians Happen To Good People, written by David Burchett, is a book that brings to the surface a common problem within the church today: Christians who bring difficulties into the lives of other Christians.

    Many Christians have the unwanted ability to share stories of how they were wrongly treated by other Christians or the church as a whole, but the majority of these circumstances pale in comparison to the experiences of the Burchett family.

    The Burchetts understand suffering at the hands of the church first hand. David and Joni's daughter, Katie, was born with a severe birth defect that meant soon coming certain death. They had to make drastic adjustments to their family life to accommodate an infant that they knew would not be with them for long.

    Was the church there for them in this their greatest hour of need up to that point? NO. In fact, the church made their circumstances worse. The church made their pain almost unbearable. Fearing their daughter Katie might die during a church service or somehow affect the health of the other children, it was decided that she was no longer welcome in the church nursery.

    Throughout the pages of this book, David doesn't just share horror stories and leave us leave us holding the problems in our hands with no idea of what to do about them. He offers solutions and guidance on how we can change our ways to become the kind of Christ-followers who would make others want to follow Christ as well.

    This book is an amazing read. Thus it is a recommended read by all Christians seeking a more powerful understanding and focus on the movement of God within their lives.

    Dr. Jeff Krupinski
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    couldnt put it down
    August 17, 2012
    Skinner
    kc,mo
    Age: Over 65
    Gender: female
    Quality: 5
    Value: 4
    Meets Expectations: 5
    A must read for all christian good or bad. It brought back memories of some legalistic churches

    I attended as a youth. I am using it for the Sunday school class I teach and having spirited discussions.
  4. Modelk66
    Monroe, NC
    Age: 45-54
    Gender: male
    5 Stars Out Of 5
    A Must Read
    July 23, 2012
    Modelk66
    Monroe, NC
    Age: 45-54
    Gender: male
    Quality: 5
    Value: 5
    Meets Expectations: 5
    DISCLAIMER: I received an Advance Reader's Copy of the book "When Bad Christians Happen to Good People" by Dave Burchett from Waterbrook Multnomah Publishers in exchange for a publicized review of the book.

    There is one thing about looking into a mirror - you see your exact self, flaws and all. Do NOT read this book unless you are willing to be faced with your exact self, flaws and all. I hate to admit how much of myself I saw in this provoking and challenging book. While I would prefer to see myself as a "good" Christian, I must admit I have been a pretty good "bad" one most of my Christian life. Much like in front of a mirror, in Burchett's book there is no hiding. It is an easy read; it's facing the revealed flaws that is hard. This book is a must read for every person who claims to be a Christian. As research continues to reveal that the church in America is declining and being less trusted than ever before, Burchett reveals the ugly truth behind why - its our own fault; we are our own worst enemy. And it is personal before it becomes corporate. No one denomination or organization is to blame. I am to blame. And I have a hunch that everyone that reads the book will draw the same conclusion. Burchett does include a wonderful little guide to using the book as a study tool both for personal and small group usage. I needed this book and its message. Maybe you don't. I didn't think I did - until I read it.
  5. pastor2519
    West Point, UT
    Age: 55-65
    Gender: male
    5 Stars Out Of 5
    grace reigns, despite our best efforts
    July 11, 2012
    pastor2519
    West Point, UT
    Age: 55-65
    Gender: male
    Quality: 5
    Value: 5
    Meets Expectations: 5
    There are a lot of people out there who have issues with Christianity, with the Church, and with Christians; several people have written about how unchurched people tend to look at the church; and the information presented there is a good step in the right direction. In his book "When Bad Christians Happen to Good People: where we Have Failed Each Other and how to Reverse the Damage" (Waterbrook Multnomah, 2011, originally published 2002) Dave Burchett takes it a step further, and looks at the issues with an insider's perspective.

    I first read this books years ago because I liked the title. But it goes far beyond that. Christians have a tendency to mess up, even after they say the sinners' prayer, even though they attend church services regularly, go on missions trips and serve on boards and committees. Sin is a big part of who we are. People outside the church sin in the same ways as Christians and don't think anything of it, but just let a professing Christian act like a human being, and all bets are off.

    Burchett walks the reader through a series of problems within the "local church" (insert the name of your church here), then he moves on to how Christians often, with the best of intentions, convince their ‘targets' to look elsewhere (things like ‘do as I say and not as I do' attitudes, or speaking Christianese - a special language known only to those who have spent many years in a church setting. And then he asks us to take a look at how we can correct some of our self-inflicted maladies.

    All of this is done within the context of we're human beings, we're sinners saved by grace, we make mistakes, but we're still Christians with good intentions. Unfortunately we (individuals and corporately as members of a local church body) don't always get it right. But, as Burchett reminds us, God is good; grace reigns and there is hope!

    Enjoy the read! 4.5/5

    The publisher provided me a free copy of the e-book in exchange for the review.
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