Disagree on some points,but overall essential read
April 8, 2011
I would agree with others that their comments about Satan targeting women is overstated - this is not supported Biblically in my opinion. Satan's hatred and destructive forces against mankind, however, are not overstated! Some complain about how many references they make to movies. I don't think this is because they don't value scripture, but because it helps women connect with desires that they've suppressed without knowing it! I was very helped by the references because it made me realize the truths of scripture about woman's role was true even if it felt threateningly unsafe and undesirable to me. Thinking about how I connect with these movies made me realize the longings were still in me even if I hated admitting it! And yes, it is Biblical to say God is meant to be known as our Husband and the lover of our soul (Is. 54). The way they encourage woman to seek God's healing is beautiful and powerful!
First I must say I question whether or not Sara (see below) even completed reading this book. To call this book shallow or too surface and to say it plays to Hollywood stereotypes just shows me she either didn't read it or really, really mistook the point of this book. It delves deeply into spiritual matters of the woman's heart and how God speaks to each and every one of us ladies in an intimate way that is unique to us personally. The theme of this book is intimacy. Though it covers a great many things in regards to what we were taught as little girls and how we conduct our lives as a whole now, as adults, the overwhelming point of the whole book is intimacy. The fact that God wants to have an intimate relationship with me personally. The fact that he has a relationship with Diane and Lisa and Virginia and Chelsea and whoever is not enough for God--he wants ME. And he wants YOU. All those ladies cannot fulfill his desires for relationship with me, only I can do that. I would encourage everyone to read this book through at least once and am actually on this site right now to buy it for my sister-in-law. And Sara, if you read this I encourage you to read through this book again--maybe there's a way God can use it in your life that you might have missed at your first glance. May the lover of your soul bless you all!
By establishing that our differences in temperament, lifestyle, age, choices, etc., can ALL be of use to God, I came to realize and understand that I, too, am chosen by God to seek His Will for my life and how I can serve Him.
Instead of disliking or even hating parts of myself, usually because I was committing the evil of comparing myself to others, I could see in these authors' writing and the scriptures they presented, along with the particulars of the scriptures used, that I AM exactly what the Lord wants to use for His perfect purpose. I am very encouraged!
Though I've never read Wild at Heart, I'm very familiar with the best-selling success of the book and the acclaim of its author, John Eldredge. Therefore, I looked forward to reading Captivating, the "woman's equivalent" to Wild at Heart written by John and his wife Stasi.
I expected to read some powerful insights into the deepest spiritual longings of women. The book begins with what they claim are the three core desires of women:
1. to be romanced
2. to play a role in her own adventures
3. to display beauty
Although I agree with these things to a point, I think they are too shallow overall. I didn't find the spiritual depth and maturity that I was hoping for in this book. Yes, women like to be "pretty" and to hear compliments, but really, isn't there more to it than that? Can't we move beyond the surface spiritually?
Since the Eldredges' background is rooted in Hollywood (screenwriters), that bias is clear in their writing. There were far too many references to recent movies and characters for my taste. Firstly, I didn't recognize any of the references since I don't go to movies. Secondly, are Hollywood characters really the best examples of making a point in a book about Christian women? The obsession with outward appearances is a detriment to the multi-faceted wonder of womanhood that God created. This book plays into too many vain stereotypes, in my opinion. They also use some examples that just read as too "New Age" for me. I prefer a book that values women for their intelligence, compassion, and other fruits of the spirit, rather than just focusing on the physical/emotional aspects.
I'm sure that this book might meet a need in a "crossover" audience of new Christians or those who are seeking, but it simply was not my cup of tea.