"I just don't understand. Why would he walk out on everything we have? I feel as though I've been living a lieâ€”a lie I still wish were true."
The young woman sat in my husband's office, sobs wracking her swollen body. A few weeks away from delivering her third child, she now faced the pain of marital separation. Her husband said he didn't love herâ€”hadn't loved her for a long time. And despite his vehement denials, she suspected he'd found someone else. Where would she go? What could she do?
My husband and I counseled our young friend and her husband as best we could. We wished they weren't the only members of our young adult Sunday School class to face this problem. We wished we had more resources for what's become a growing concern for believers and non-believers alike: the problem of marital separation.
Linda W. Rooks provides just such a resource in Broken Heart on Hold: Surviving Separation (David C. Cook, 2006). When you're hurting, you don't need pious platitudes or legalistic lectures. You want someone to listen. You want someone to understand. And you want someone to walk beside you on an always-painful, often-unwanted journey.
The author combines a tender heart with skillful writing to transform a time of personal pain into a vehicle of healing. As she tells her story in fresh, honest language, she provides godly encouragement and practical advice for those who face similar anguish. Short, self-contained chapters allow readers who can't devour an entire book to savor its truth a few pages at a time.
I loved (and hated) the author's transparency as she described her journey. But what I loved more was the way she went beyond personal experience to encourage readers with Scripture, heartfelt prayers, and small suggestions sure to make a big difference.
Although Linda's story has a happy ending (she and her husband have reconciled and now help others who suffer similar marital pain), she writes from a humble, fresh, and open perspective that urges readers to seek God first. I'll keep this resource on hand for the next sobbing wife or sullen husband who shows up at our door. May God continue to use Linda's wisdom to guide readers through a season no one desires but many encounter.
Almost all of this book has spoken to me on the many feelings, emotions, dimensions, etc. of what I'm going through now. My marriage ended after 25 years, an affair, and now mental cruelty from my one-time husband. Linda Rooks book has been a bright spot in my dark times!
I swear this book was written just for me. I have read other books, to try to help me understand what was happening but none compared to this one. Broken Heart on Hold helped me to heal. As difficult as my situation is...I found out that there are other Christian women suffering and there is no shame and yes we are special and yes we are good Godly Christian women that could relate and hold your head up and not let the enemy destroy us, but to keep pressing on for our soul-mates NO MATTER if they walk away from the Lord or from us. Keep praying, keep praying, keep praying for them. NEVER STOP, God gave them to us so it brings HIM joy when we continue to intercede for them no matter how bad it is or gets.(believe it or not, they are in torment, the enemy has deceived them and it is up to us to intercede for them) It WILL bring Glory to the Lord and yes women, you will be rewarded. You are in His hands when you seek him for guidance and restoration. Thank you Lord!
The BEST book I read while I was separated!! Instead of focusing on putting my marriage back together, Linda helped me focus on keeping myself together. I cannot say enough about how helpful this book was!!! I've read it three times already. She was able to articulate and explain feelings that I didn't even realize I was experiencing. EVERY woman who is currently enduring an unwanted divorce should read this.
After my husband moved out I was desperate to read anything for advice and/or direction. I read everything from "forget the bum" to "do this and he'll come home". Not until I read Linda's book did I begin to get my heart and mind where they needed to be. Away from my husband and failed marriage and back to the heart of God. Linda has an amazing way of walking through the pain with you but encouraging and directing you out wallowing in it. She helps you move your eyes off the situation and onto the loving face of Jesus! I have read the book 3 times and each time it has been a blessing in a new way as my heart changes and grows through this dark time. I have and will continue to recommend and give this book to anyone who is facing separation or divorce. It may not change the out come of your separation but it will change your out look and your heart for God!