Beyond Ordinary was a great book to challenge couples to not settle for an ordinary marriage. They authors say that if you neglect a marriage, even the best marriages get dull and people can drift apart. But this isn't a how-to book. I loved the fact that they say Jesus is the only way to a better marriage because without Jesus we can't do anything. Jesus needs to change our hearts before we can love our spouses the way we ought to. The husband and wife take turns writing, which was a fun format. They walk you through their marriage story and bring in lots of scripture as well. There are good questions for discussion at the end of each chapter. I found the book encouraging and Christ-centered. I wouldn't recommend this book for newlyweds just because I don't think most newlyweds can imagine having severe problems in their marriages_even though it would be good for them to think about. And this isn't just a book for a marriage dealing with an affair. The principles are the same for any marriage.
To be honest, I rarely read books on marriage because I am not married nor have I ever been, but I decided to read it because I got it for free from Tyndale. I found this book to be more than your average book on saving struggling marriages. It is full of useful advice and God's truth that would be very good not only for struggling marriages, but all marriages in general. I am glad I read this book because if I ever get married, which I highly doubt, I will have already learned some important truths to bring to a marriage such as keeping God first in my life and not looking to a husband to fill a void that only God can fill. I think that this book should be read by everyone is married before their marriage is in danger of becoming a divorce because prevention is better than treatment. Though this book is geared for those who are married, I found a lot of truths that I can apply to my life such as becoming a new person by allowing God to break me and transform me. Everyone has wounds of some sort in their life and learning to forgive is something that everyone needs to do and this book was very helpful in showing me what true forgiveness is. Though I am not married, I realized that this book was still for me because I realized that God had a lot to do in my life and that I need to allow Him before I even think about getting married and starting a family.
I was hesitant at first about reading a marriage book because I didn't think it would keep my attention and after a chapter of what I should or shouldn't do it would be a struggle to keep reading but that definitely does not describe this book. The authors share their real life marriage experiences in each chapter and some things they have learned along their marriage journey to turn a marriage from ordinary to extraordinary. Justin and Trisha shared both separately and together their struggles and triumphs during the course of their marriage so far. It was an excellent book. It was very hard to put the book down-I wanted to keep reading and find out what happened to their marriage.
This is the story of Justin and Trisha, who had an "ordinary" marriage, and how they overcame their struggles together.
The book is this couple's testimony, told from both the husband and wife's perspectives, with marriage advice and questions at the end of each chapter. I did not feel that this was a good book to help with my marriage. There are better books out there to strengthen and help marriages.
Justin and Trisha Davis had a seemingly fine marriage from the outside. They were building a ministry and a family together and from a distance they were living the fairy tale marriage. For a long time, they didn't even realize themselves that something was wrong. The mistake they made, the mistake so many of us made was that they settled for ordinary.
As I read their narratives there were times I could see my hubby and I in similar situations. There were times that as a woman I would read Justin's thoughts and shake my head, knowing just how much trouble he was digging himself into. I became involved in their story because I think we can all identify with rocky times in our relationships.
I like the way they incorporate Scriptural principals into the book so that the reader can see from the outer perspective how God made us and what our natual tendencies are as couples. Illustrations from the Bible help put it in context and also help the reader to learn who God wants us to be in our relationships with Him.
There are questions at the end of each chapter that can help couples as they think about their own marriages seek the extraordinary. I enjoyed reading this book and reflecting on my marriage and how I can go the extra mile to make it extraordinary. God wants His very best for each and every one of us and until we seek Him first and obey His calling on our lives, we can't have that. God has to be at the center of it all.
I highly recommend this book! It was a great read ~ so go get your copy today!
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***I received a complimentary copy of this book, courtesy of Tyndale Blogger Network, for the purpose of review