I am not married, but, having studied Marriage and Family Counseling, I am often looking for books about family and marriages, so when I seen this book, it caught my eye. I have read a few marriage books, but this one is different from most. It is written in a he said/she said, journal/blog format, which I really enjoyed. It felt like I was able to peek in on their lives and see exactly how they did life and marriage. As they wrote about different stages in their life, they were able to write what was happening at that time in their marriage as well, and share problems in their marriage that, at the time, might have not seemed like a big deal, but in retrospect is what caused major problems later on. So, not only is this a marriage "self-help" book, it is an autobiography.
This book also looks at the "self" a lot, and what you need to do to move yourself beyond ordinary and have a greater relationship with Christ, so you can have a beyond ordinary marriage. So, while this book is for people who are struggling with their marriage, I recommend reading this book before you even get to that point, even before you're married. I will definitely be keeping this book on my bookshelf and recommending it to every couple I know who wants to move "beyond ordinary" and have an extraordinary, Christ-centered, marriage!
I seriously cannot get over how amazing this book is. I have never heard/read the problems in marriages today expressed so truthfully and Biblical and practical advice given so honestly and pertinently. Justin and Trisha write this book with a transparency that's not graphic and over-the-top, but rather just what you need to hear and would want to hear from Godly, biblical counselors.
The Davis' take turns with the writing of "Beyond Ordinary" so that it's always written in the first person; sometimes both of them sharing about the same incident but from their own perspective, which I found incredibly helpful. Each chapter begins with them sharing aspects of their lives/marriage, some good and some bad, and then ending with Biblical excerpts, comparisons and application. Such a great foundation for a book on marriage. Â
I have to say, I was completely shocked by the twist about 2/3 into the book, but honestly, the HUGE problems they shared in their own marriage only made them more likable and approachable as real humans who had real problems in their marriage.Â
I truly wish I had the money to buy a copy for every couple I know, as this is THAT good! So, if you're married, plan on getting married, know someone who's married or plans on getting married, you NEED to buy this incredible book! :)
(By the way, I'm single, never married, but I think that only goes to show how powerful this book is, as I could see the truth in it, just from living with my married parents and having married brothers and married best friends.)
Inspiring read that makes me believe an extraordinary marriage is possible. Without finger-pointing, the authors use a back-and-forth style of writing from each of their perspectives and reveal the mistakes they each made. It also details the steps they took to healing and creating an extraordinary marriage where they both support each other. This story is especially compelling as they were involved in church ministry: church ministers and leaders are not immune to marriage problems! However, when both are sincerely seeking what God wants for them, healing can occur out of the most disastrous situations!
I strongly agree that faith in God is the best tool to keep a marriage headed in the right direction. I appreciate the Davises` sharing their story, and their message. I am left with a lot to think about. I was not sure what to think about some of the points they made, and that might be because our marriage is not similar to theirs, or because of the slightly simplistic writing style they used. Some of the points could have been fleshed out, to clarify them. I did feel that Gary Chapman's 4 Seasons of Marriage had more to say to me and my husband, but this is useful as well. All in all, it is a good guide to healing in marriages.