This book really addressed battles that were hurting my marriage unknowingly. I was also not aware of their impact on me spiritually, but I now realize how much sexual immorality is offensive to God which had hurt my relationship with Him. This book can definitely make my marriage more of the way God intended.
I first read this book about 5 years ago. God did use this book to help me grow in sexual purity. However the tips and techniques that the book teaches are ineffective. For months I fought, and fought, and fought to not look a second time at women. I thought it finally worked and had me 'cured', but that was not the case. Where is the work of God in this? Where is the change of heart that is needed? Sure, I can fight to not look, but without a changed heart the book completely misses the point. Even if I can 'bounce the eyes' every time, yet my heart remains unchanged, what is the point?
We don't need more techniques to become better Christians. It will always fail. Such were the Pharisees in Jesus time. They built rules and traditions around God's laws, 'just to be safe'. Yet their hearts were unchanged. Outwardly they kept the law, and then some. But inwardly their hearts were adulterous, sinful, and wicked. I see the tips and techniques that this book offers as similar to the rules and laws that the Pharisees created for themselves. Men need changed hearts, not mere techniques and 'battle plan' that leave God out of the picture.
I'm curious to know if indeed the authors are still able to 'bounce' their eyes continually, or if they too fail to keep their own techniques for purity.
My husband and I are reading this and its partner "Every Woman's Battle" together, since we're newly married and want to equip ourselves for fighting future temptations and for recognizing warning signals. This book is very good for that, and though we're lucky enough to have most of the basics down already (we already are convinced of the need and worth for purity, etc.), there have been several good points that have benefited him already. Once the preliminary chapters are digested, the meat of the helpful advice and "battle plan" are very effective and easy to understand. This is also good for single men, too! Not just for married men : )
Sexual impurity is EVERY man's battle. God has a lot to say about it in His Word - so pay attention. I don't care who you are or your place in life as all men have this innate problem to lust, fantasize, covet and a lot more. My problem has been going on for over 55 years. I bought the first edition at a Promise Keepers
Rally in 1999 but never read it until November 2011. What a waste of years! The information and study guide in this book has helped me kick the habits I've created. Thanks be to God for helping me kick those but it's not a one-time deal. I wish it was so but because it's not, each day is a new battle of sorts, more like a skirmish but a fight none the less. Each and every time one of my old issues pops up, I deal with it right then and there through prayer. God will and does honor those who seek to be free of it so keep a very short list. We are at war with the unseen forces of evil. Remember the old bracelets, WWJD? Flip it around so it says DJWW. It translates to Devil Just Won't Win!!! I'm so glad to be on the wining side! So I depend on God each and every day for victory over sexual impurity. It's not easy nor pretty but man is it worth it. The Men's Group in my church is doing the book and workbook at my urging. Some have done it, others have not. But I fully believe that sexual impurity is one of the biggest issues that holds back the Holy Spirit in many churches. Thanks be to God that my pastors have gone through this study and are free of this bondage. Lives are forever changed and marriages transformed for the good. The Holy Spirit is going gang busters in and through the congregation. Man, what an exciting place to be.