This book really addressed battles that were hurting my marriage unknowingly. I was also not aware of their impact on me spiritually, but I now realize how much sexual immorality is offensive to God which had hurt my relationship with Him. This book can definitely make my marriage more of the way God intended.
I first read this book about 5 years ago. God did use this book to help me grow in sexual purity. However the tips and techniques that the book teaches are ineffective. For months I fought, and fought, and fought to not look a second time at women. I thought it finally worked and had me 'cured', but that was not the case. Where is the work of God in this? Where is the change of heart that is needed? Sure, I can fight to not look, but without a changed heart the book completely misses the point. Even if I can 'bounce the eyes' every time, yet my heart remains unchanged, what is the point?
We don't need more techniques to become better Christians. It will always fail. Such were the Pharisees in Jesus time. They built rules and traditions around God's laws, 'just to be safe'. Yet their hearts were unchanged. Outwardly they kept the law, and then some. But inwardly their hearts were adulterous, sinful, and wicked. I see the tips and techniques that this book offers as similar to the rules and laws that the Pharisees created for themselves. Men need changed hearts, not mere techniques and 'battle plan' that leave God out of the picture.
I'm curious to know if indeed the authors are still able to 'bounce' their eyes continually, or if they too fail to keep their own techniques for purity.
My husband and I are reading this and its partner "Every Woman's Battle" together, since we're newly married and want to equip ourselves for fighting future temptations and for recognizing warning signals. This book is very good for that, and though we're lucky enough to have most of the basics down already (we already are convinced of the need and worth for purity, etc.), there have been several good points that have benefited him already. Once the preliminary chapters are digested, the meat of the helpful advice and "battle plan" are very effective and easy to understand. This is also good for single men, too! Not just for married men : )