''No one ever told me that grief felt so much like fear.'' This intensely personal journal, written by Lewis after the death of his wife, probes the ''mad midnight moments'' of his mourning; moments when he questioned his beliefs in life and death, marriage, and even God. With brief, poignant insights, Lewis puts into words the feelings and struggles we all go through when we've lost a loved one. This thoughtful gift edition includes a foreword by Madeleine L'Engle. 89 pages, hardcover from HarperCollins.
Written with love, humility, and faith, this brief but poignant volume was first published in 1961 and concerns the death of C. S. Lewis's wife, the American-born poet Joy Davidman. In her introduction to this new edition, Madeleine L'Engle writes: "I am grateful to Lewis for having the courage to yell, to doubt, to kick at God in angry violence. This is a part of a healthy grief which is not often encouraged. It is helpful indeed that C. S. Lewis, who has been such a successful apologist for Christianity, should have the courage to admit doubt about what he has so superbly proclaimed. It gives us permission to admit our own doubts, our own angers and anguishes, and to know that they are part of the soul's growth."
Written in longhand in notebooks that Lewis found in his home, A Grief Observed probes the "mad midnight moments" of Lewis's mourning and loss, moments in which he questioned what he had previously believed about life and death, marriage, and even God. Indecision and self-pity assailed Lewis. "We are under the harrow and can't escape," he writes. "I know that the thing I want is exactly the thing I can never get. The old life, the jokes, the drinks, the arguments, the lovemaking, the tiny, heartbreaking commonplace." Writing A Grief Observed as "a defense against total collapse, a safety valve," he came to recognize that "bereavement is a universal and integral part of our experience of love."
Lewis writes his statement of faith with precision, humor, and grace. Yet neither is Lewis reluctant to confess his continuing doubts and his awareness of his own human frailty. This is precisely the quality which suggests that A Grief Observed may become "among the great devotional books of our age."
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5 out of 5 stars
Reviewed by Rodger Ragan (High Point, NC), August 31, 2009
This book is right where I am. I felt and still feel the same thoughts and feelings as CS did in his experience with Joy. Great book and "a must read" for those dealing with Grief.
5 out of 5 stars
Reviewed by Cheryl Stotesbery (Huntington, WV), January 08, 2001
Good things do indeed come in small packages. Lewis' work on grief so clearly expresses what I felt when my own spouse died. His elegant yet sparse writing captures the essence of grief and the doubts and questions that haunt the mourner.
I refer back to this book often in moments of overwhelming grief. My own copy is worn from continual use. The work is so masterful that I keep several copies on hand to give as gifts to those who have experienced a recent death of a loved one.
Lewis seems to hold back nothing as he sweeps us along on his own private journey through tragic loss and faith reborn. Far from sugar-coated or trite, Lewis lets us into his own pain and own search for comfort. He boldly addresses the big questions like, "How could God do this?"
The book is not depressing, it's affirming in that we see that our own grief is not so different from the grief of others, even at a point in life when we feel so disconnected and like no one understands what it's REALLY like to lose a spouse. Lewis understood what it was really like and he unabashedly tells us.
If you or someone you love has lost a loved one, particularly a much-loved spouse, get this book.
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