|Teens Can Make It Happen Work Book|
By: Stedman Graham
|The Success Process|
The world is a collection of unlimited wealth and resources. Often, we limit our potential by moving in our own small circles because of our fears. If we change the way we view the world, there is nothing we cannot accomplish.
-- Stedman Graham
What does success mean to you? To some it means a lot of money or prestige, a big house, a fancy car, an executive position. To others it means doing what they want to do: winning an award, earning a scholarship, mastering new skills. Others might define success in terms of how strong their relationships are with family and friends.
Success can mean a lot of things to a lot of people, and that's all right. To me, people who are successful when they are fulfilling their own potential, expanding their horizons, not afraid to take risks, and continually growing. Success comes from knowing who you are and what you want to achieve, what your abilities are and how you can use them to live a fulfilling life -- one in which your potential is fully tapped.
"As a teenager, it is easy for me to dream about a successful future. However, I need to concentrate on realistic goals and achieve them step by step. Success doesn't happen overnight, and it is important to realize that at my age. However, I believe that if I work on accomplishing my goals, my dreams, or parts of them, will come true."
-- Lana, age eighteen
Too many kids nowadays don't even know what their potential is, much less how to tap into it. And success requires both of those things to happen. It doesn't just happen on its own.
So how do you become successful? How do you discover your potential and learn how to tap into it?
By engaging in a process that helps you pursue your dreams and goals. By taking action. By understanding that what happens to you is not nearly as important as how you choose to react or respond to it. By creating a vision and a plan to make that vision happen. By taking risks -- and knowing which risks to take. By making wise decisions.
There are a number of factors involved in becoming successful, and they are all part of the Success Process that I detailed in my book Teens Can Make It Happen: Nine Steps to Success. That book, along with this workbook, will help you begin the Success Process. It will help you envision what success means to you in terms of your relationships with others, your education and career goals, and your role within your community.
Like many people, I wasted a great deal of my life worrying about what others thought of me. I still struggle with that, even though I now realize that it doesn't matter what others think of me; what matters most is how I feel about myself and that I believe in the possibilities for my life.
You can't do much about what others say or think about you. You can only focus on those things that are within your control. The things that matter most to you and that you have the power to influence are contained in what I call your Success Circles. These circles are simply a way of helping you focus on the most important areas of your life when you undertake the Success Process. That focus helps you to grow and enrich your life.
Anyone can come up with a dozen or more such circles, but let's consider these basic three: Personal Development, Career, and Relationships.
So what goes into these Success Circles? Well, your circles might begin to shape up like this:
The relationship circle is critical, for without consistent and strong relationships, it is difficult to build a meaningful life. Listen to what this student has to say about relationships and motivation:
It may be possible for a short period of time, but in the long run I doubt anyone can find constant motivation from within. The quality of support for each person, I think, varies. However, it is always important to get a bit of encouragement, praise, or validation along the way. Otherwise you may start to question whether or not your work is going anywhere.
-- Kelly, age eighteen
Create Your Success Circles
Now take some time to fill in your own Success Circles. Within each one, try to list at least five things you can do to better your life.
If things aren't going well for you in one of these areas -- personal development, career, relationships -- chances are it has a negative impact on the other areas. That's why it is so important to have a balanced life, to pay attention in equal measure to your schoolwork or your job if you have one, your personal development and the community around you, and your relationships with family, friends, and adults who are in positions to help you.
Also, note that often your circles will overlap. For example:
This overlapping strengthens your life in these key areas and gives you a more solid base from which to pursue a successful life.
THE EARLY STAGES OF LIFE
5-13 ELEMENTARY SCHOOL
13-18 HIGH SCHOOL
18-22 COLLEGE OR VOCATIONAL TRAINING
22-25 FIRST JOB
25-30 DEVELOP REAL-WORLD KNOWLEDGE OR WORKFORCE
Steps to a Better Life
So what is this Success Process that I mentioned? The process involves nine steps. Following are brief descriptions of those steps.
That's the Success Process in a nutshell. But to make it happen, you have to roll up your sleeves and get ready to do some work. Are you willing to do the work? It will be worth it, believe me. You'll get out of it what you put into it. If you want to get the most out of it, work carefully through the material and activities. Think seriously about how each step applies or should apply to how you live your life. In the end, what you take away from the nine-step Success Process is what matters most. Use it as a springboard to a promising future.
Now let's take the first step: let's check your ID.
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