Men, discover the real desires of your wife's heart and learn how to faithfully fulfill them! Through candid reflections on their own marriages, the authors apply solid, time-tested biblical wisdom and down-to-earth applications to dispel misconceptions that can lead to strife in relationships---including exercising "authority" and being "submissive." Includes discussion guide. 240 pages, softcover from Waterbrook.
Average Rating: 3.5 out of 5 stars(3.5 out of 5 stars)
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2 out of 5 stars
Reviewed by mj (washington state), November 17, 2009
I bought this book for my husband hoping it would be a helpful as Every Woman's Marriage, however it was not. We were both disappointed. I agree with the other 2 low reviews; using the word "master" in reference to wives is not biblical and I disagree with the feminist undertones of this book.
5 out of 5 stars
Reviewed by Sam (Tampa, Florida), July 24, 2009
I read Every Young Man's Battle about 9 years ago as a married man. That book was life changing. At first I was stunned by it's implications regarding my having to give up taking sexual pleasure from any source other than my wife: Job 31:1 and Mathew 5:28 amongst others.But as I submitted to the biblical wisdom in the book my marriage was transformed wonderfully.
My experience with this book has been different, but just as life changing. I had become convicted about two years ago that my relationship with my wife needed to reflect the principles described in Every Man's Marriage. Only I had never read the book at the time of my conviction. My committment to the principles began to wane as I read and heard all the talk in other sources about how the wife is to submit to her husband. I honestly felt convicted to act as the bond servant (though I did not know the term at the time)but self-doubt began to set in. So when I recently read this book I was as stunned as I had been when I read Every Young Man's Battle. I was stunned because the conviction I had felt before reading the book was validated. As we had started to impliment the principles before reading EMM our marriage began to be transformed. As we backed off because of our self-doubts the transformation began to whither. Now that we are back to following the teaching in this book (and my conviction) we feel great peace.
I give great thanks to the authors for bringing this message to others. Following it's teachings faithfully will bring both spouses peace and transform your relationship. One word of caution, it takes a lot of effort on the husband's part to put the practices of both books into practice, and that effort has to continue for the longhall until the new behaviours become second nature. It is not a quick transformation.
0.5 out of 5 stars
Reviewed by Thomas Colter (Stuart, FL), April 24, 2009
I thought it was terrible. Void of imagination and an embarrassment to the Word of God and to Men in general. Another book from the Church furthering the feminization of our society. I'll stick with Corinthians 13 and a little prayer.
5 out of 5 stars
Reviewed by Anthony (Winchester,KY), February 24, 2009
I read this book after I had read "Every Man's Battle." My wife and I were having some rough times in our marriage that I thought was mostly her not understanding me. After reading this book my eyes became opened and I realized it was really my fault and I wasn't treating her with the respect she deserves. Marriage truly is a covenant with God and each other. I was treating marriage as a contract and didn't realize what all my wife was giving up for me. I had always taken the scripture "two shall become one" strictly sexual and I didn't realize the concept of truly being one. Now I do and my love for my wife has grown deeply. God bless Stephen and Fred for writing this book. Hopefully other men will find it as life changing as I did.
5 out of 5 stars
Reviewed by Todd Brown (Bossier City, LA), January 02, 2009
I read this book a few years ago and it completely changed the way I treat women. I am reading it again because my wife and I are going to lead a marriage study group very soon. I think ALL men can gain insight from this book and bring their marriage to a whole new level.
5 out of 5 stars
Reviewed by Fred Stoeker (Des Moines, IA), January 26, 2008
As author of EMM, I'm responding to Jack's review. Men get so nervous when talking about submission that it is easy for a reader to misread what an author writes, so I must respectfully point out that Jack did not carefully read the book.
The position of the husband is that of leader. As the husband in my home, my one and only Master is Jesus Christ, and I answer to Him and to Him alone.
I wrote Every Man's Marriage to picture what God intends that leadership to look like in practice. Biblically, "servant leadership" means that we are to have the kind of love for our wives that is a life-long commitment to help her fully bloom as a daughter in Christ, even if that sometimes means sacrifice and even if that means husbands must sometimes give up parts of who they are, the parts that are trampling her spirit. This parallels the kind of love that a bond servant had for his master in the Bible, a Biblical picture I use as a model for some of the discussions in the book.
That doesn't make my wife my master and I'm not her slave. But it DOES mean that I must have that kind of love, that kind of a commitment to oneness and a love for her that yearns to free her to blossom in Christ under my leadership, just as a bond-servant yearned to help his master blossom in their relationship.
I am still the leader when loving like this. It is just a different type of leadership. Even when I give in on an issue or give up my rights for her sake, I'm still leading. I'm the one choosing to do so, and I guarantee you that when you lead like this, it leads everyone in the home to desire to love sacrificially, and it makes it easy for your wife to submit to your authority. You are a much stronger leader this way.
Men often use an unbiblical pattern of leadership and therefore begin crushing the spirits of their wives without even knowing it. That's what happened to me. I hope it doesn't happen to you.
1 out of 5 stars
Reviewed by Jack (Arlington, WA), June 20, 2007
The author means well in this book, however all the men in my small group felt this book was out of line with scripture. Christ is glorified when we honor, love and serve our wives. We should not confuse that with making her our "master" (the authors words). Christ is our only master. While loving and serving our wives, Husbands should remain leaders of the household and not "submit" to the wife for the sake of her "essence". I think this book is seriously misguided and I would not recommend it to a brother in Christ. There were very few references to scripture in this book in comparison to other Christian lifestyle books I've read before.
5 out of 5 stars
Reviewed by David R. Bess (Charleston, West Virginia), January 07, 2003
I started reading this book thinking it was primarily directed only to "Neanderthal" Christian men who don't have a heart or a brain when it comes to interaction with their wives! The pace does begin slowly, but in hindsight this pace would be helpful to those men who need to start at square one in their relationships. There is much here however, that will refine happily-married Christian men who have been living with contented spouses for years.
The author starts by describing how marriages grow cold. He then progresses to offer his instructions on how to return the warm glow to the grey embers. The bulk of the book focuses on the concept of being a bondservant to one's wife, both in heart and in mind. This concept really makes the book, and the author's exposition of it is well worth the purchase price. The volume concludes with a description of how submitting to one's wife, and her needs, can totally revive and rejuvenate an ailing marriage.
I recommend this book to all Christian married men, regardless of the strength or the longevity of their marriages. After all, none of us as husbands have arrived! Get it, read it, practice it, and see the difference!
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