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Why is respect more important to husbands than love? Do men have an inner vulnerability? Why does sex unlock a man's emotions? Is a wife's appearance important? This groundbreaking book unmasks men's inner wiring and equips wives to meet them at the point of their deepest needs.

What’s going on in a man’s mind? From their early days, every woman has struggled to understand why males behave the way they do. Even long-married women who think they understand men have only scratched the surface. Beneath a man’s rugged exterior is an even more rugged, unmapped terrain. What bestselling author Shaunti Feldhahn’s research reveals about the inner lives of men will open women’s eyes to what the men in their life—boyfriends, brothers, husbands, and sons—are really thinking and feeling. Men want to be understood, but they’re afraid to "freak out" the women they love by confessing what is happening inside their heads. This book will guide women in how to provide the loving support that modern men want and need.

The Truth About His Inner Life

He Desperately Wants You to Know

What's going on in there? Ever been totally confused by something your man has said or done? Want to understand his secret desires and fears, his daily battles that you know nothing about?

In a woman-to-woman conversation you’ll never forget, Shaunti Feldhahn takes you beneath the surface into the inner lives of men. This book is about the things we just don’t ’get’ about guys. With findings from a groundbreaking national survey and personal interviews of over one thousand men, For Women Only is full of eye-opening revelations you need to not only understand the man in your life, but to support and love him in the way he needs to be loved. Grounded in biblical hope, you will discover how to love your man for who he really is—not who you think he is.

Story Behind the Book

I had no idea how clueless I was about men until I interviewed a bunch of them for my last novel. Initially, I just wanted a little insight so I could write my main (male) character. But pretty soon I found myself astonished, over and over again blurting out, "That’s what you’re thinking?" So I did more interviews. After the novel hit shelves, dozens of women told me they also had been astonished by what I included. Clearly I wasn’t the only one who needed more insight on this!

To lay the groundwork for this nonfiction book, I wrote out the half-dozen things from these interviews that had most surprised me—things that appeared to be universal to most men—that women desperately needed to know. I conducted a professional national survey of men to test my findings. Yep—the survey substantiated every single one. These findings are fascinating—and they have already changed my life and marriage. I can’t wait to share them!

Shaunti Feldhahn started out as an analyst on Wall Street and ended up a surprise bestselling author, encouraging the Christian community toward service and outreach with the #1 bestseller Y2K: The Millennium Bug—A Balanced Christian Response. Also an author of message fiction, Shaunti is a newspaper columnist on women’s issues, contributing the conservative opinion for the Atlanta Journal- Constitution’s popular online "Woman to Woman" column. Shaunti and her husband, Jeff, are active leaders in their church, leading a home group that encourages married couples toward greater intimacy with God and each other.

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Reviewed by Emily (Woodstock, GA), August 12, 2010

What a joke! This made it sound like men are off the hook for their sexual thoughts and lusts. That's it's only natural, they can't help it! The part about respect means love was NOTHING new. Don't know why so many of you loved the book so much.

Reviewed by Gary W Haskell Sr (Jackson, PA), June 23, 2010

Shaunti Feldhahn hits the nail on the head. Women have no excuses for not loving their mate as she should because Shaunti covers those too!

Reviewed by Dondi Kuhn (Amery, WI), June 01, 2010

This was the best book I have ever read! If you think your marriage is over, DON'T DO IT!!! Read this book and have your man read the book about women. This is absolutely the best material you'll ever read.

Reviewed by Charlotte Klein (Billings, MT), May 03, 2010

EXCELLENT RESOURCE! i know women are always reading about how to better their relationship with their husbands...this one is one of the best!!!

Reviewed by Nyssa Reed (Tucson, AZ), April 19, 2010

It was a faaablous book! I love everything she has written and continue to be amazed at all of her insight. Definatley buy this book!!!

Reviewed by Zoharys Jaen (Downey, CA), April 01, 2010

it is a book the open the main door to understand and give the appropied response to our husbands and males we deal with every day.

Reviewed by Skylar (Carbondale, Illinois), February 17, 2010

My girlfriend and I decided to go through the opposite book as was suggested as a possibility in the reading plan/guide insert--so for me being the guy I was to read "For Women Only" and we were planning on writing notes in for which things are applicable or not true for us and to sort of personalize the book so each of us could talk about these things and apply them to our relationship. I skipped 2 of the chapters. This book has some good information and can help you realize some things, yet overall I felt twisted up and almost sick in some ways while reading. It seemed to justify and give excuse for putting your ultimate fulfillment and need in your spouse when it should only be in the Lord. It seems to not be scripture based in most ways and just seems very not centered around Christ and His ways and on His worship and how to make a relationship that is in submission and putting Him as the Lord but one that is rather the end of the means in itself and one that is in the world. It seems to constantly make excuse for us not being at God's standards--and as a man I can say it sets very low standards and/or expectations in regards to the man's heart and the call God has upon men. A very dangerous book that if you do read: keep alert and discerning and don't fall to the many lies and justifications in terms of our lives and God's standards as having set us apart to be holy as He is.

Reviewed by Angela (Spring Lake Park, MN), February 12, 2010

This is the most amazing book I have read thus far and I have been reading alot. This is a must read for all wives! It is remarkable to be able to understand your husband at such a deep level and it does wonders for your relationship. I also recommend getting your husband "For Men Only". Also I wanted to add, after reading the reviews below, it saddens me that not all women are open to this deeper understanding, it is not that our men are weak "God's creation was very good" Gensis, but in todays Satan has increased his attacks on our men and we as their wives need to live up to our helpmeet status that God gaves us. And this book provides the insight to learn how to do that. THANK YOU Shaunti! I needed to read this!

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