You pursue sexual behavior to numb your emotional pain and feel more in control of your life. And it's becoming harder all the time to avoid giving in to these activities. For men and women, the addicted and those who want to help them, False Intimacy offers honest biblical solutions to help overcome the compulsion to act on false "relationships" and find true intimacy.
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5 out of 5 stars
Reviewed by Robert Wood (Elkin, NC), July 20, 2009
Very well written and informative Bible based directives for all men or women who face any type of lust and or sexual type of temptation. Good for helping to counsel others in their struggles as well as ourselves.
5 out of 5 stars
Reviewed by SEK (Des Moines, IA), September 16, 2007
False Intimacy was a book I desired to read simply by the title. As one who was caught in bondage to sexual immorality, true intimacy was something I desperately desired but settled for false intimacy in pornography in all its forms, eventually leading to adultery and idolatry. Dr. Schaumburg offers hope and help through the ministry of this book and also the ministry God has called him to in Stone Gate Resources, a program for those caught up in sexual immorality. If you, like me, desire true intimacy with God and others, read this book and be open to God's leading to wholeness.
5 out of 5 stars
Reviewed by Dr. Robert W. Kellemen (Taneytown, MD), August 06, 2005
"False Intimacy" is actually a much better and broader title than the subtitle, for Schaumburg's work is not only about sexual addiction. It is about what the Puritans called "overmuch love"--loving anything more than we love God. It is about what the Reformers called "idols of the heart"--placing anything in first place above God.
Schaumburg biblically develops a theology of relational sin based upon the premise that God, the ultimate Relational Being (the eternally Trinitarian Community of Oneness), created us in His image (the imago Dei) to relationally long for communion with Him and connection with one another. As designed by God, intimacy is true and pure and results in shalom--personal and interpersonal wholeness and harmony. As depraved by sin, false intimacy is selfish and impure and results in shame--personal and interpersonal alienation and separation.
Schaumburg moves from this Creation and Fall theology to Redemptive theology--what difference does our newness in Christ make in how we overcome our addictions. His wisdom principles are excellent both for the addicted person and for those who love them and desire to help them.
As other reviewers have noted, Schaumburg writes "False Intimacy" from a decidedly Christian perspective with the most relevant application for those who identify themselves as committed to Christ. However, the insights of the book, drawn as they are from the Word of God and from Schaumburg's insights working with literally 1000s of addicted people, have application to everyone.
Reviewer: Dr. Robert W. Kellemen is the author of "Soul Physicians," "Spiritual Friends," "Biblical Psychology," "Martin Luther's Counseling," and the forthcoming "Sacred Companions: The Story of African American Soul Care and Spiritual Direction."
5 out of 5 stars
Reviewed by JA (Richmond, VA), October 23, 2004
I've read many books on this subject, and this is the best! Dr. Schaumburg does not give superficial solutions to the deep problem of sexual sin. Thank God that he both exposes the real depth of this sin and points us to a brokenness that allows us to restore our relationships with God and others.
4.5 out of 5 stars
Reviewed by Marlen Miller (Kirkland, WA), April 21, 2000
A "must have" book for anyone who knows someone who is struggling, or is struggling themselves with sexual addiction. The author details the roots of addiction, the necessity for professional counseling, and shares insight into the devastation sexual addiction and disconnected relationships can bring. I recommend this highly for counselors and pastors within the church who are unaware that this problem is rampant and pervasive within the church. It will give "alongsiders" insight into how to stretch past denial, and onto healing and reconciliation.
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Author: Harry Schaumburg
Located in: Larkspur, CO
Submitted: March 01, 2001
Tell us a little about yourself. I have worked with sexual brokenness for over 20
years. We have seen real change in countless
lives and believe real change is possible.
What was your motivation behind this project? Our ministry is committed to pointing people away
from sexual brokennes to restored intimacy with
God.
What do you hope folks will gain from this project? People will be able to deal with the core issues
behind the behavior and see real and lasting
change.
Anything else you'd like readers / listeners to know: We offer ten days of Brief Intensive Counseling
and we have people coming from across the county
to our counseling retreat, Stone Gate, located in
CO. For information: www.stonegateresources.org
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