|More Beauty, Less Beast: Transforming Your Inner Ogre|
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If you ever wrestle with that out-of-control inner ogre that threatens to destroy the divinely beautiful princess hidden within, this witty and wise book is for you. With simple, practical tips for taming that nasty, unsightly beast, you'll discover how to transform its unattractive snarl into inner and outer beauty - refashioned, revitalized, and renewed.
Debora Coty is an occupational therapist, a piano teacher, and a freelance writer. She began writing to fill the void when her last child left for college, and it has since become a passion. Debora has a real knack for getting across sound biblical concepts with a refreshing lightheartedness as attested in her monthly newspaper column entitled "Grace Notes: God's Grace for Everyday Living."
|What’s the story behind More Beauty, Less Beast?
More Beauty, Less Beast: Transforming Your Inner Ogre was the result of hearing repeated comments from women during my travels as an inspirational speaker about their difficulty balancing God’s standard of beauty versus the world’s. How to keep your focus on the inner beauty that lasts rather than fleeting outer beauty that is so glorified by our society. Women need the assurance that there’s more to life than accessorizing.
|What is an "inner ogre"? Who did you write this book for?
Our inner ogre is that beast we all battle...the ugly, angry, out-of-control side of us that emerges from it's internal slimy pit when we least expect it and threatens to destroy everything and everyone we love. More Beauty, Less Beast is for women who are weary of losing their personal battles with that snarky beast and are ready to muzzle and tame the brute. That's the only way we can permanently adjust our beaut-i-tudes and be transformed into the beautiful women we were always intended to be.
|What do you think is the biggest struggle for women?
Embracing the truth that our worth isn't dependent on whether we're a B cup or a DD. That chia pet hair or a Clark Gable mustache or wide load jeans do NOT make us ugly. That true beauty has nothing to do with dress size. When God measures a woman, the tape measure doesn't go around her hips, it goes around her heart.
|What are three pieces of practical advice for someone struggling with guilt?
The way I see it, guilt generally falls into two categories: Ice Cream guilt and I Scream guilt. Ice Cream guilt is about an action or habit that we legitimately need to change, like scarfing down an entire half gallon of ice cream before bed. I Scream guilt is the unhealthy obsession with things that are out of our control. The nagging, debilitating guilt that keeps us frustrated enough to scream.
Make no mistake, guilt is a spiritual battle. In More Beauty, Less Beast, I differentiate ways to deal with each type, but steps that are included in resolving both kinds of guilt are:
- Bathe the specific behavior and your desire to change in prayer; ask a trusted accountability partner to pray with you.
- Seek scriptural support for motivation and strength; tape specific scriptures to your mirror so they're the first thing you see every morning, for example, Psalm 103:12, CEV: How far has the Lord taken our sins from us? Farther than the distance from east to west!
- Create a plan; you can't win the game without a winning game plan! Decide before it happens how you'll behave differently the next time a similar situation arises.
- Thank God for His gracious forgiveness and forgive yourself. As Jesus told the adulterous women in John 8:11: Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more.
|You've turned your own story into funny anecdotes to make the points in your book. At what point did you decide you could laugh at yourself?
I've always been a firm proponent of Proverbs 17:22: A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. One of my heroes is Old Testament Sarah, who was told by an angel that she was going to have a baby at age 90. Most women would have run away screaming into the night, but Sarah chose to name her baby "Laughter" (Isaac). I'll bet she never once complained about trading in her wheelchair for a baby stroller. Or preparing his juice bottle while slurping her morning Metamucil. Or watching him cut new teeth while hers were soaking in a glass of Efferdent.
|Is it true that you recently lost 40 lbs? What brought about the change?
I was a victim of what I call "Boo Baggage" (one of the many Coty Near Facts of Science sprinkled throughout my books). It's that extra pound or two that sneaks up on you year after year for a decade or two until one day, 20-30 rotten, stinking pounds jump out from behind you and yell "Boo!"
The year I turned 50 was my Debbie-Do-Over year; I blonded the gray, got invisible braces to harness my front unicorn tooth, and simultaneously went on Weight Watchers. I learned quite a lot about inner beauty versus outer beauty on my little journey to find my inside-out self and share it in chapters like, "Flab is Drab," "Beauty Can be Such a Crock," "Bermuda Shorts Triangle," and "Waisting Away."