6. Callie Mae tells Penny, “You’re addicted to an abusive man.” Do you agree with Callie’s assessment? Why or why not? What are some other things—besides alcohol or drugs—that a person can develop an unhealthy dependence on? What does it take to break the cycle?
7. One of the reasons Penny gives for not wanting to leave Trent is that being with him is better than being alone. Why are familiar, though unpleasant, circumstances often more attractive than the unfamiliar and the unknown? In what areas in your life are you clinging to something that you really might be better of without, just because it’s familiar?
8. Callie Mae helps Penny reframe her situation by asking, “If you had a daughter and she came to you and told you her husband was treating her the way Trent is treating you, would your advice be to stay with him?” (ch. 24). Why is it sometimes easier to see what’s going on in a situation involving someone else than in our own situation? What’s going on in your life right now that might benefit from some reframing?
9. Pastor Harold asks Penny, “Why isn’t grace enough?” and Penny herself wonders why it isn’t. How would you answer that question on Penny’s behalf? Is God’s grace alone sufficient for all of life’s challenges, or does God’s grace sometimes require a response or action from us? How do we know if that’s the case?
10. Callie tells Penny that God will not manipulate someone into doing something the person doesn’t want to do, even if other people are begging him to intervene. Have you ever pleaded with God to change a loved one? What was the outcome? Why do you think God allows people to have free will even when it means other people might get hurt?
11. With the support of a friend and her pastor, Penny stages an intervention with Trent. Do you think that was a good idea? Why or why not? Have you ever tried to confront a loved one about a serious problem in this way? How did—or would—you go about it?