Q: When did you first develop a passion for working with men? What inspired you to write The True Measure of a Man?
A: Several years ago I noticed a pattern in young men’s lives. As they began their careers, they all seemed to have the same plan for their lives: make a great deal of money, marry the woman of their dreams and have perfect children—the American Dream. But, if you fast forward 15 to 20 years, it hits them that life has not turned out the way they had planned—work, marriage and raising children in this culture are very difficult. The mid-life crisis most men go through, I believe, is in reality a spiritual crisis, and there is a great opportunity to reach men. That is how the vision to start the center came about.
I was inspired to write the book because of the financial crisis and the great fear that men were experiencing. Warren Buffett called it a paralyzing fear. Someone suggested I give a series of talks on why men were having such difficulty understanding their fears, struggles and even depression. I gave four talks that were very well received, and then it was suggested that I convert them into a book, which I did.