1. Susannah and Jesse marry after exchanging a few letters. How long were you in a relationship before committing? What discoveries did you make after committing? Are there any surprises left for long-time couples?
2. Susannah is intimidated by Dakota's emptiness. What frightens you when you travel?
3. Susannah wants privacy, but Jesse craves intimacy. How do couples work this out?
4. Jesse refers to their marriage as a two-piece puzzle - different, but fitted into a whole. Is he right? Do opposites attract? Do you believe there's someone for everyone?
5. Susannah wants to confide in Marta. How important are girlfriends? What can you say to a girlfriend that you wouldn't discuss with your spouse?
6. Victorian culture blamed women if they were attacked. In what ways does today's culture blame victims? What should our stance as Christians be toward victims?
7. Jesse tells Susannah to forget the "shoulds". What "shoulds" does today's culture impose on us? Do "shoulds" point to a more Christ-like life or restrict our freedom in Christ?
8. Jesse's expectations for his wife don't include fancy meals or a spotless house - he wants to know her. How do expectations affect relationships? How do expectations change over the years?
9. Jesse keeps trying to coax Susannah into expressing her opinion, debating with him. On what issues should couples agree? And where are differences of opinion acceptable?
10. Susannah stopped praying when God didn't give her what she wanted. What other ways to people react to disappointment with God? Have you had a similar experience with unanswered prayers?
11. Jesse thinks the grasshopper invasion is a lesson or punishment from God. When Susannah learns the extent of the plague, she remembers Matthew 5:45, God "sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust." Who is right? In your life, which problems do you attribute to God's discipline and which are 'just life'? Are some problems both?
12. Susannah renegotiates her marriage. Have you had to do this? How did it work out?
13. When Susannah has to make a decision, she struggles to hear God amidst advice from friends. What role should friends have in discerning God's will?
14. Jesse's love for Susannah opens her to believe God loves her. Who in your life has helped you understand God's love? How can our actions show God's love?