6. What does Miranda think of Christians? What are her own religious beliefs? How does Jennifer Hansen respond to Miranda’s declarations about religion? What do you think of Jennifer’s method of stating her beliefs? Have you ever tried to share your faith with someone else? Has anyone tried to tell you about a religion different from yours? What happened?
7. In this book, Kim and Derek are dealing with Luke’s diabetes. What impact can a chronic illness have on a family—financially, physically, emotionally, and in other ways? How is Kim handling the situation at the start of the book? What is Derek’s attitude about Luke’s problem? How has Dr. Groene chosen to deal with his diabetes?
8. In the first book in this series, It Happens Every Spring, Steve and Brenda Hansen’s marital problems grew from within their relationship. In this book, Kim and Derek face trouble that comes from outside their marriage. They are struggling not only with Luke’s illness but also with a blended family and with in-law relationships. But Kim and Derek also have trouble within their marriage. What are some of the mistakes they have made in building their relationship?
9. Strategy 3 in The Four Seasons of Marriage encourages couples to discover and speak each other’s primary love language. The five love languages are (1) words of affirmation, (2) acts of service, (3) receiving gifts, (4) physical touch, and (5) quality time. What love language does Derek speak? How can you tell? What is Kim’s response to his way of communicating love? What is Kim’s love language? How does Derek feel about it?
10. In this book, Charlie Moore teaches Derek how to “fish.” “Fishing” is Strategy 4—empathetic listening—in The Four Seasons Of Marriage. What is the goal of this kind of “fishing”? Practical ways to do this include (1) listening with an attitude of understanding (not judgment); (2) withholding judgment on the other person’s ideas; (3) affirming the other person, even when you disagree with his or her ideas; and (4) sharing your own ideas only after the other person feels understood. How did Derek begin to listen empathetically to Lydia? to Kim? How was Kim’s “bait” different from Derek’s? Can you describe how you might listen empathetically to your spouse or loved one regarding an area of disagreement in your relationship?