1. In Remember to Forget, Maggie Anderson feels trapped in her life because of an abusive, controlling boyfriend. She’s unexpectedly given a chance to escape this life, but she’s lived under Kevin Bryson’s tyranny for so long, she scarcely knows how to handle her newfound freedom. Yet she longs for the new life she sees modeled by the people of Clayburn, Kansas.
If you think of Remember to Forget as an allegory—a story with layers of meaning, where characters and actions symbolize more than what is “on the surface”—in what ways does this story reveal what life is like without Christ? the longing the Holy Spirit puts within us for a relationship with God? and the transition into new life in Christ? (See 2 Corinthians 5:17.)
2. How much do you believe in “coincidence”? The Blakely family just happens to be headed where Maggie wants to go. Maggie just happens to be wearing tennis shoes and socks for the first time all summer. Wren just happens to have a bag of clothes in Maggie’s size….and that’s just for starters. There are many “coincidences” in Remember to Forget. Have you experienced similar circumstances—whether significant or trivial—that you believe are more than mere coincidence? Explain.
3. From the time Maggie escapes from her captor in New York, she is offered a ride several times by various people. Have you ever offered help to someone in need the way Opal Sanchez, the Henrys, the Blakelys, and Kaye DeVore did for Maggie, only to feel that your help was not appreciated? Tell the story. How did that make you feel at the time? Have you gained any other perspective since then? If so, what? Is it possible that somewhere down the road the person you helped became grateful for your help, but had no way of coming back to thank you?
Have you ever had a chance to go back and thank someone for leading you to Christ, or helping you grow in your faith, or develop your gifts? Did you take that opportunity? Why or why not?
4. When Maggie pours her heart out to Trevor at the bus station, she trusts him with her fears and tells him some of her needs. But she continues to harbor many secrets from him. If you’ve trusted God with your life, were you completely honest with Him—and with yourself—at first? Or did it take awhile to admit everything you are, were, or have done?
If you’ve come to the point in your faith walk where you have admitted every fault, fear, and mistake to God, what emotion accompanied that moment? Why do you think that is?
If you haven’t experienced that moment of confession yet, what do you think might be holding you back?