Sample Questions and Answers from the Chapter Entitled "PEER PRESSURE"
Q. What is peer pressure?
A. School starts in about ten minutes, so you figure it's about time to roll out of bed and get ready. You look in your closet and pull out a black shirt, black pants and a black belt, black socks and black shoes. You hurry into the bathroom where you put two cans of mousse into your hair, then part it just above your left ear and brush it all over to the other side of your head. You take one last glance in the mirror. Perfect. As your race through the kitchen you bump into Mom. She takes one look at you and scrams. Near hysteria, she raves about the way you look.
Undisturbed (you've been through this so many times before) you tell her, "But Mom, this is how all my friends dress." As if that were the ultimate answer to all mankind's questions.
As you jump in the car you ask yourself,
"Why am I dressed this way? It's the dumbest looking outfit I've ever worn!"
Why do you wear it? Peer Pressure. Peer Pressure is that powerful influence your friends have over you that dictates the clothes you wear, the words you use, the people you associate with, the places you go and the attitude you have. It is the pressure you experience to conform to the standards of your friends even if you don't want to. It can be either good or bad, depending on where your friends are coming from.
In the 1960s the most powerful influence in a teenager's life was his parents, followed by teachers and then his peers. But in the 1980s peer pressure ranked first, followed by parents and then the media (adapted from Teenage Morality Study, p. 25, Josh McDowell Ministry).
Q. My girlfriends at school keep making fun of me because I'm still a virgin. What can I do?
A. What would you guess it the number one pressure on a girl to become sexually active? If you guessed guys, you're wrong. The greatest pressure often comes from her own girlfriends. If you find yourself in a situation like this, remember there are some things that you can give away only once. And your virginity is one of them. Don't sacrifice, like so many women do, the things that are eternal on the alter of the immediate. That is, don't give away something you can never give away again to some guy (who buys you a lousy hamburger and takes you to see a movie you have already seen before), just because your girlfriends are pressuring you. The next time they begin to hassle you, you might want to tell them what one young lady told her friends. "In five minutes, I can become like you. But try as hard as your can, you can never again become like me."
Q. My boyfriend keeps telling me if I loved him, I would let him. I don't know if I can resist much longer. What should I do?